• Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

There is nothing can satisfy greedy person

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “there is nothing can satisfy greedy person”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone agrees that they can become greedy at any time, there many causes why people become greedy, basically sense of greed is kind of default habit, we can’t avoid it unless we have seek the information how to train our habit consistently, in this life we are always surrounded by several types of default habit, maybe you will ask me, what is the meaning of “default habit”; the unknown habit which it tries to make you losing your invaluable thing when you don’t train your habit towards productive habit, we must prepare something we have never made before the default habit is taking all values we have, here is the first type of default habit is self-righteous, the second type of default habit is greed, the third type of default habit is know it all, the fourth type of default habit is complacency, the fifth type of default habit is uncontrolled fear, to eliminate these type of default habit from your positive habit, you must understand what you really need in life before you realize about what you really want in life, remember this advice; if you don’t recognize what you really need in life, probably your thought will invite several default habit that hold you back from being successful person, you must measure your needs before your wants can blind your clarity of vision, sometimes in this life you must minimize what you really need in order to neutralize your thoughts from false expectation because the default habit often attacks when you are staggeringly pursue what you want.

       


    I just want to remind you that life always wants you to focus on what you need first before you focus on what you want, if you can maximize your needs until you can forget what you want, your life will give something you deserve it, remember this note; life only gives you what you deserve, not to give what you want, before you want something bigger than your daily needs, you must know what you can handle for fulfilling God's plan which it can bring a big impact to other people's lives, that’s strategy how to deserve more than what you need, there is nothing can satisfy your needs unless you put yourself in uncertainty, remember this; sense of greed is always influencing us to keep wanting, wanting, not having, if our thought just wants something more and more, we will never get satisfied, so we need to make new strategy how to unlearn from sense of greed, here is the universe’s rule that can help us to fix our mindset “the more you take, the less you have”, the meaning of that universe's rule; if we don’t prepare our knowledge, preparation and ability, we will never take something valuable from this world, finally our thought always attracts of lacking, not abundance, here is good advice how to avoid from sense of greed; “upgrading your mind filter with new knowledge and wisdom”, if you focus to upgrade your mind filter, you will have the power to manage problem around you, including other people's problem, the universe will return all energy to you if you intend to solve other people's problem, here is the last note; strong person doesn’t want to take something from people’s advantage, instead of he always gives what they have and care to fulfill what other people can’t have, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.     

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You hold the trump card

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “you hold the trump card”, the main reason why I choose that topic not many people are willing to hold their trump card when the life crisis is coming, many of us lose focus when we can't adapt with any circumstance, we feel disturbed when there is so much unpredictable problem, remember; trump card has nothing to do with people's life experience, but it related with what people develop for solving a big pressing problem in the future's lives, in order to get trump card, we must be proactive to find information where it can be used to upgrade our skill, our trump card can be useful when we keep digging our potential at scope area we are interested it, maybe it takes many years for us to activate the trump card, we don’t need to confuse about the place where we can find our trump card, we just need to focus about what we are capable until the trump card appears by itself, here is my opinion; trump card's working principle is like the intuition, we can’t find it in our mindset except we finish to make a building blocks, means, we have passed our training in tough days, we have learned to adapt during the crisis and we can endure so much pain in long period of time, here is the special note; when our momentum of action has touched God’s plan, our trump card is working for us surprisingly and we will be directed to go to the big case as well as get unimaginable reward.


   I understand why not many people can find their trump card in the rest of their lives because they haven’t finished a building blocks, this situation can become worse when people lose their clarity of vision, if people still can't find the problem why they are  always losing the opportunity, people will be directed to learn from every problem they have met, we don't need to stay furious why we can't finish the big case in  this life, all we need to do is having strong willingness to begin, we don't need to get panic why we can't find the solution, now let me share with you about several causes why people can’t get something what they want in life, here is the first cause why people can’t get what they deserve in life; they lack the clarity of vision about what they must do and they too focus about the failure story, means, they consider living in this world as playtime, they prefer to work for getting pleasure rather than work on the goal, here is the second cause why people can’t get what they deserve in  life; they haven’t finished a building blocks, means, they don’t make time to collect the valuable information in order to guide them how to improve something doesn't work, here is the purpose of trump card; it can negotiate with the future about our preparation and it can monitor our strength, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.     


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Money doesn’t change people

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “money doesn’t change people”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people consider money is part of big reason why they can keep showing on their best performance at work, they hope money will change their own lives and solve their internal and external problem, at this point let me clarify that money is not kind of the nature, money is like the vehicle to drive you to go to the place you desire, if you think your problem can be solved with money, means, you don't really have serious problem in your life, "there is no single human has money's problem, there is only lack of resourcefulness how to provide more value to human's problem", we must understand that money and problem are having major difference thing in purpose, money is reflecting to what people spend their valuable time and their skills at their job, whereas, problem is reflecting to what people view the world based on their strength and weakness, if you hope your money will change your problem, it is incommensurate because your problem is the product of your incapability to adapt with hardship, whereas your money is just facilitation, if you have money’s problem now, it is coming from your ignorance towards your character, if you have character’s problem, it is returned to what kind of information you consume every day for your brain. 


    Your intelligence has nothing to do with your character, but your intelligence has connected with your ritual, don’t confuse with your decision, if you fail during trying something you never tried, it has nothing to do with your character, but it has connected with your strategy, preparation and practice, your mindset will help you to solve the big case if you allow yourself to make new mistakes and make commitment, your character will change your future if you live on your dream and adapt with adversity and the learning process, so once again I tell you that money is just tool to facilitate what you perform at your daily needs, here is the best advice you need to ponder it; "if you want to get inspiration, you must inspire people’s lives first, you can show your character as the farewell gift for them, if you want to change your life, change other people’s lives by offering your masterpiece or service, if you want to make progress at your career, you must help others to progress in their understanding process, if you want to succeed, you must help others to succeed, that’s logical choice how to change people’s destiny", although you have a lot of money, your money just helps people to survive, but it doesn’t help people to solve the core of their problem, don’t allow your money can give you opportunity to devalue what you perform at your career, please beware about the money you earned, your money can help you to upgrade your skill if you use your money to buy something that it can increase your knowledge, wisdom or confidence level, on the other hand, your money can’t help you to upgrade your skill if you use your money to satisfy your short term satisfaction, basically money will not represent your skill, but money will represent your character and habit, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.     


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What time off is for?

 


   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “what time off is for?” the reason why I choose that topic because not many people can maximize their time off for doing something better, some people don't consider time off as self-thinking time, here is what most people think "whether there is time off or not, I don’t care about it", what they care is only enjoy how to find what they love or to find what they should have, such as playing the online games, playing social media for many hours, making chit chat with friends every day and idling away with friends every day without any agenda, etc. Those are the signs that they can activate the time bomb, remember; if we don’t want to activate the time bomb, we must do something different when leisure begins, for example; we study how to practice the communication skills when other people hang with their friends in leisure, we make agenda for the next goal when other people play the social media in leisure, we read book when other people play the online games in leisure, remember this note; our time off will be useless when we consider our major time is full of playtime, no matter how much time we have, we will never get satisfied to enjoy something around us if our thought is fueled by short term satisfaction, the philosopher "Seneca" ever said “leisure without study is death, if we don’t use leisure to study, we are like a tomb for the living person”, the meaning of that wise word is we will never have a chance to alter new life if we can’t use our leisure to study, life offers us about something we can control and something we can’t control, so we must use our leisure to ponder it.




  We must understand that there are many things we can’t control in this world, such as other people’s opinion, life circumstance, tragedy, money’s crisis, reputation, health, death, misfortune, luck, rich, poor, accident, time, failure, rejection and other people’s behavior, if we use our time off to care something we can’t control, we would be no having life to survive, here is my opinion if you want to care your future; use your leisure to focus on what you can control, such as your perception, your opinion, your behavior and your choice, please beware about it!! "there is nothing to change in life when we focus on what we can't control and don't do something what we can control", if we can’t make time to contemplate about one year’s plan, we will live into anywhere place where we should not belong there, when one year’s time is counted, we have to work on our goal and don’t stop until we reach our one year’s goal, remember; we can choose whether time will run in our plan or we let our time goes for nothing, when we consider time as the best partner, we will not make our time getting upset about what we do, our mission is not looking for short term satisfaction, but we are looking for opportunity where it can invite the natural gift from Almighty God, after we can retain it, we can use it to shape our future's life as we desire, the major key how to use our time in effective way; leave our masterpiece to solve as many problem as possible in life, in addition, we need to work hard for future's goal, not just work hard for the job, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.     

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Make yourself invulnerable to your dependency on comfort and convenience

Lazy person always looks for comfort and convenience
 

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “make yourself invulnerable to your dependency on comfort and convenience”the reason why I choose that topic because many people work hard for their convenient job and they put their sense of dependency on it, we must realize that the world offers many unexpected temptationtemptation will happen if we don't have a big purpose and we fight against what the nature demand of usif we think there is problem in our livesthe problem is not coming from the external world, but the problem lies into our internal world, such as lack of passion, lack of curiosity, lack of integrity, lack of decisiveness, lack of ingenuity, lack of sincerity, lack of commitment, lack of consistency and lack of purpose oriented, I just want to remind that this world is not offering us the best solution how to make us happy, but this world is offering us responsibility how to endure pain or suffering, how to survive from adversity, how to solve problemunfortunately many people lack of awareness about their biggest enemy's existence, namely comfort and conveniencedo you know why I call it as the biggest enemy for human? Because it is leading human to go to the desperate zone in the futurethe source of major problem in our lives is caused by our misinterpretation about the meaning of happinessmost people consider their happiness lies in the casino, drugs, cigarette, free sex, pornographyalcohol, ecstasy, etc. Remember; those are not included in true happiness, they are part of false happiness because they can attract the evil’s power and they can harm people’s mental healthdo you know why I say such thing because false happiness is always driving people’s sense of dependence on comfort and convenience.

The Couch Potato

    Comfort and convenience can make us vulnerable to something uncertain and both of them can put us into desperate zone in the future if we are always making habit of it, we should not sacrifice our future by enjoying short term satisfaction, it is very dangerous habit because short term satisfaction can kill our potential sooner or later, if we just think our whole lives is spent in one day, we will become desperate man in the future, we must save our future by preparing something big and training some skills in order to welcome any adversity or life crisis, remember; only have a dream can delay our short term satisfaction, ease is greater threat to progress than hardship itself, if there is person can apply this strategy, I am sure he will not do something casually because he needs to pursue his dream before his dependency on comfort is growing, life is always offering tragedy, unfortunate and problem when we lack of preparedness, there is no much time to live casually for longer time, we must do something before the crisis comes to our timeline, remember about the nature’s law; if we don’t plant anything in the garden, weeds grow until the garden is completely overgrown by weeds, the meaning of that nature's law is we must take care about what we start in our life career, if we just enjoy this life without limiting the length of time, sense of negativity will dominate, such as laziness, doubt, indifferent, indecisive, fear, worry, etc. I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 


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5 tips to help you strengthen your integrity

 

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “5 tips to help you strengthen your integrity”, the reason why I choose that topic because integrity is the one of the most priceless of the human’s habit, if any person can possess integrity on his character, that’s mean, he is the valuable person, if you look at the company’s policy around the world, most companies that I know, they obligate any employees to have integrity because it can avoid any distrust and dispute between one person to another one, at this moment, let me share something to you about integrity, here is the first tip to help you strengthen your integrity; Do what’s right, let the consequences follow, means, you will take risk when you decide to do what’s right, you can’t finish something before you let the consequences follow you, do you know what it means, the consequences follow you not because you feel sucks with your attitude, but the consequence follows you because you already succeed to clear a bad attitude, remember; good behavior will strengthen your sense of integrity and it can help you how to focus what you do in job and finish what you targetedwhen there is someone can’t finish something in his work, he is not lacking of intelligence, he is not lacking of practice, he is only lack of integrity, you must beware about someone who lacks of integrity, this kind of person can kill your company progressively, here is the second tip to help you strengthen your integrity; Fulfill your promise after you make a decision, means, when you train your integrity to fulfill your promise, unwittingly you build good character and your promise is going to attract more opportunity for you and eventually your life is going to get better progressively.


   “Don’t play small when you can do something bigger”, means, when you decide to work for something big, it can give you the challenge how to practice your integrity, I would say your decision is right when you work in order to strengthen your integrity, remember; the type of work you choose is going to strengthen your bright future if you encircle yourself with sense of integrity, I can guarantee working for integrity can build good reputation for your career and you will not regret with it because sense of integrity will give you something more than what you deserve it, here is the third tip to help you strengthen your integrity; you must fulfill the consequence for your preparation, means, you have to know your strength and weaknesses before you continue to do something big in your career, long term preparation can help you to pass through the consequence in tough time and your sense of integrity will increase because you are serious about what you develop in your preparation, here is the fourth tip to help you strengthen your integrity; Don’t stop until you finish the deadline, means, when you decide to finish the deadline’s job on time, your sense of integrity will promote your career unexpectedly, remember this advice; when you finish deadline before due time, your confidence level will increasehere is the fifth tip to help you strengthen your integrity; Don’t do business with people who lack of integrity, the reason why you need to stay away from people who lack of integrity because it can devalue your business’s development, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 


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Proper practice can change your default habit

Make a list for proper practice
 

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “proper practice can change your default habit”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people can change their default habit, basically every human can’t choose a default habit when they were born at the first time because a default habit comes from the upbringing value and the parenting’s genetic code, maybe you will ask me, “why do I have default habit?”, because it is part of belief system where it can help you to adapt your own circumstance and also it can block you from something bigger than your capacity, besides that, there is disadvantage from default habit, we can call it as ego, remember; ego is kind of the false mind trap which it ensures everybody can’t escape from it, in order to escape from default habit, there are two strategies; the first strategy; you have to push yourself to do something good constantly and make sure what you do can bring many advantages to your life as well as other people’s lives, the second strategy; you have to feed your mind filter machine with knowledge, inspirational story, or you can encircle yourself with something that it can increase your confidence level, such as reading book, do meditation, practicing your expertise every day, setting new goal, etc.

   

   Remember this nature’s law, maybe it helps you to understand why you must have default habit; “the weeds grow when there is no plantation in the land”, means, if you don’t do anything valuable for yourself, the negativity grows in your thought and your habit, so we must beware about it because everybody can’t avoid from their own default habit, in order to cut the negative source, you have to stop giving it energy to negative feeling, such as stop encircling yourself with toxic people's habit, proper practice can’t be applied when your paradigm isn’t ready to accept it, in order to make your paradigm is changing, you must embrace with failure, rejection, delay, betrayal, setback, that's life pressure you need to take with you, remember this; “if there is no pressure, there is no evolution”, it is the same with the butterfly’s life, before he becomes butterfly, his inborn genetic comes from caterpillar, as we know that caterpillar can't fly, he must crawl in the tree's trunk, after caterpillar grows to be adult, he must enter into the cocoon for several months before he becomes a beautiful butterfly, it takes a lot of energy, a lot of time and a lot of pressure, that’s natural habit, if we can understand that priceless lesson, we can apply it into our own lives and we do self-reflection for making better future, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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It could happen to you

 

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “it could happen to you”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone is ready to receive something from the life challenge, the first group of people hate about what they receive from the uncertainty in life because they don't know what to do for fulfilling it and the second group of people are happy about what they can receive from the uncertainty in life because they can adapt well, from two group of people's reaction, we can conclude their problem is not coming from what life does something to them, but their problem is coming from what they give their reaction to life, people who can't give a good reaction to life, they tend to seek for something which can give them a guarantee for making living, here is my opinion; we don't need to bother thinking about the guarantee because every human can't give any guarantee about what will happen to human in the future, life is mysterious, all we can do as human is learn from past experience, unlearn from the bad influence, adapt with new adversity, and contemplate about something unsuccessful, the first thing how we negotiate with life is we measure about work in progress, if we can measure it, there is something more we can do differently, we can find the source from the type of book we read and we can learn from the type of information we listen, remember this advice; a false information will lead us to recession if we just believe it.


   Reality is more powerful than history, if reality can answer every human’s doubt, history is no longer valid anymore because it has been represented by reality, if you want to know whether your behavior is congruent or not with reality, you can look at your resources, such as self-awareness, intuition, and skill, if your resources can help you to survive during passing tough time, reality will show you about the amazing thing in your life, if your resources can't help you to survive, means, you don’t learn anything good from any life aspect you have met, in order to manifest something you want into reality, you must understand about the law of attraction, “what you are focusing now can attract something in your life”, please beware about what you focus on because it has nothing to do with outside the world, but it has related with your confirmation bias from your mindset, you must upgrade your mind filter if you want to get the abundance of life, such as reading book, learning from good people's habit, here is what you can do if you want to upgrade your mind filter machine; invest yourself with something bigger than your current potential vibration, means, you find something that it can increase self-awareness and find something that it can help you to answer your strongest curiosity and self-doubt, "whatever you do now, you will live into the place where you deserve it, if you don't plant good thing in your life, you will live into the place where you deserve it even though you hate it", I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Lack of purpose will lead to recession

 

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “lack of purpose will lead to recession”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people buy their fear by pursuing something they love to do and not to do what it takes for their career development, people lack of purpose because they spend their major time to do what they think is easy and hate to do what they think is impossible to do, I have ever shared “every human is surrounded by the evil’s desire”, we can’t defeat it because it is part of oneness with human being, the evil’s purpose is to prevent people to do something they hate to do, the evil’s desire will be active when people just spend their major time to do what they love only without knowing the consequence behind it, we must beware when enjoyment dominates to our habit because it can lead us to recession, in order to curb what our lust wants, we must to do what our lust hates to do, such as learning a new thing, don’t worship for money, do good deeds, stay curious about what our pain tells, we will lack of direction if we follow where our enjoyment goes, we can’t hope to do something we love to do and hope the bright future will follow us, that method doesn't work, life is happening not because we want it so much, but life is responding based on what we deserve to get, means, if we want to deserve something good from this life, we must do something what our lust hates to do, such as making a charity for poor people, contribute the blood, share knowledge and wisdom, help other people to improve their lives, make people realized about their power of will, teach people how the life works, those are signs how to lead us go to the right direction.


   Basically, goodness is totally opposite with what our lust wants, let me remind you about one verse from the Holy Qur’an in Surah Al Baqarah (2) verse 216, it is stated “fighting has been enjoined upon you while it is hateful to you, but perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you, and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you, and Allah (God) knows, while you know not” , the meaning of that verse is “Lust always creates war, crime and destruction, you need to fight your lust although you hate to do it, remember; just because we hate to do, it doesn't mean there is trouble behind itdon’t just do what you love because not all things you love can lead you to the right direction, some of things you love can lead your big attention to the pleasure, "every pleasure always lead us to recession, not progression", the world’s pleasure is not but deceiver, such as free sex, pornography, alcohol, drugs, gambling, playing the online game, the money game, etc.”, if you demand yourself to fight what your lust wants and you do what your lust hates to do, your life gets improved significantly because you lead your faith to the right purpose and it is according to what God demands, that’s formula how to build a good life and how to create a peace, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 


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The most powerful habit is be more able to endure any tolerance and risk

 

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “the most powerful habit is be more able to endure any tolerance and risk”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many of us are not ready to take new tolerance and accept the risk from new circumstance, do you know why they can’t endure both of them because they just sell the major time to do something unimportant where it can't help to improve the value of their skill set, besides that, people just look for entertainment, remember; we never possess the most powerful habit if we choose to live into the most secure habit, such as caring the haters, partying with friends every week, buying the thing where we don’t really need so much, etc. What we are doing now is going to shape our future, we must beware about all processes we have built because it is going to return to us whether we like or not with the consequences, all we can do as human being is do self-reflection every time we finish something, don’t follow the majority of people who can't increase your value of life, what I believe is every human has the power to endure any tolerance, if they can complain about it because they don’t train their power to do something big and more important.

train your mind to endure any tolerance and risk

    In order to build the most powerful habit, we need to learn something unusual, such as working for many people's dream and we don’t bother to think about our passion, if we want to build good life, we don’t need to find passion, but invest our time with good knowledge/ new skill until we will find the type of work which it is appropriate to our good personality, what I know about most people’s habit is they are educated by their parents and teachers to follow their passion until their passion can make them to be successful, remember this; the great thing in life is built from the most painful habit that it’s driving people to feel crazy enough to do something, not to do something they are passionate”, this idea will not lead you how to be happy person, but it can help you how to enjoy the hardest thing in tough time, if you just spend your time by looking for passion, your passion will lead you to do something you love and avoid to adapt with hardship, here are example of the secure habit; playing the online game, playing social media for fun, watching TV / cinema, going to the bar for the party every week, hang out with friends every day, all these habits will not educate you how to become the valuable person, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 


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Life is more like wrestling, not a dance

 

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “life is more like wrestling, not a dance”, it is just kind of metaphor to describe that wrestling is not offering something pleasure because there is so much pain and unpleasantness, the main reason why I choose that topic because most of us consider life is always offering something that human really like it, on the other hand, we don't really like what life offers to us because our expectation is higher than our preparationlife is serious and it is offering two things for us; the pain of losing or the joy of winning, if we want to get the joy of winning, we must take the pain of discipline by practicing our capability periodically, if we don’t get serious about what we decide, we prophesy to get the pain of losing, eventually we will live into the place where it doesn’t offer any benefit at all, life's characteristic is unlike a person who wants to negotiate or wants to take any compromises from our offer, life is very serious and non-negotiable, all we can do as human being is take a chance, enjoy the challenge and earn something from every process, we will never know how we taste that offer until we choose to finish the game, maybe we think the game is very difficult, doubt, insecure, full of affliction and full of fearfulness, it’s normal expression when we haven’t finished the game, remember this philosophy; "the brightest stars in the night is living into the darkness of the night", means, our failure, rejection, heartache, setback and empty pocket are kind of the darkness in life where it can prosper our lives in the future, "what is coming to us is better than what is gone from us", if we always regret what left us, we prophesy ourselves to become the yesterday’s person, not the future’s person.


    Life will become dangerous if we don’t focus about what we believe, life doesn't ask us to like what life really wants, but life only gives us an option; being wise or being loser, now I understand why people will never get what they really want in their lifetime because they consider life is a dance, which it offers the feeling of joy every day, if life just offers something pleasant, there is no more hungry, thirsty, poor and death, we shouldn't live at the same level in our life path, we must be different person who loves to accept new problem and new responsibility, let me talk about the life rule; “life doesn’t want to treat people in the comfortable place because life is not kind of the paradise and this life can treat us like living in the hell if we don't take seriously about the life's journey we choose, life is like treating someone who lives in the jungle, he must think how to survive, he must compete with his own ignorance / limitation, he will endure the pain of discipline, he will meet with the uncertain challenge, he will face the mysterious way, he must increase his intellectual capacity in order to solve problem and he does self-reflection once he does something wrong”, that's all, we can't expect life is going to treat us like the happiest person unless we practice and training our natural skill constantly, remember this; the happiest person is not like person who is doing something what they love and reject something what they hate, happy person is not always like someone who has been given a gift at his the birthday’s party, but the happiest person is like an athlete who struggles to pass the obstacles, endure pain and keep practicing until they can achieve something they deserve, that’s right direction how to be happy person, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Flexibility of the will

 

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “flexibility of the will”, the reason why I choose that topic because not everyone is willing to adapt with new change, the main problem why people can't adapt with new change because they are too loyal with their belief system until they can't escape from it, so whatever they behave, they feel and they think, the process leads them into recession, remember this; every circumstance in life offers new change, if we aren’t ready to adapt with it, our subconscious mind indirectly gives us the signal how to use negative thoughts into our behavior, such as angry, disappointed, unmotivated, revenge and regret, where is lies the problem? The problem comes in when people lack about the flexibility of will which may give them new authority to level up their capability, here is the note; "the more we know less about knowledge, the pain of regret will grow more", "the more we know more, the more we learn more", the conclusion from that advice is we must stay flexibility with what the life really wants, if we stay learning like a new student, the power of our will is going to diminish our lacking of resourcefulness, the main cause why we still fail again and again in the same level because we lack of flexibility of our commitment to try something else, the bleak future is going to happen when we are unable to offer something valuable to other people, don't let our life journey will live stagnant over the past few years because of our inflexibility towards the subject where we don't want to learn.



    The future is not going to wait us if we don’t prepare our trump card, the power of will is not causing our life path to recession, but inflexibility to change is causing us to live in the same problem, starting from now, we must stop doing where it can’t increase our mental capacity, such as playing the online game for many hours, watching TV or cinema more than 2 hours, playing social media more than 4 hours a day for fun only, here are the negative impacts if we can’t adapt with new circumstance; we will destroy our future’s hope, we will be forced to live into some places where we don’t think it is suitable for us, we will be pushed to use something we don’t really want to use, we will wear something we don’t want to wear, maybe we think life is cruel, it totally wrong, life is happening to us based on the type of response we send into it, life is like the mirror, if we don't like about our lives because we plant something wrong in our paradigm, we can’t blame everyone else about our misfortune, starting from today, we should not have missed many useful lessons in the past, remember; the most pain which it is incurable, namely regret, we must realize something about the risk which lies into what we do before we let our time puts the pain of regret in our lives, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   


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How to deal with pain


      Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “how to deal with pain”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone can deal with pain successfully, some of them go to the psychological clinic for consulting, some of them try to consume the alcohol, some of them try to consume antidepressant drugs, some of them try to go on vacation, and many other things, we must to know that the pain is the adapting process with the nature, means, every life’s substance must adapt to change if they want to prolong their existence on earth, it is like the tree root, it finds the water by crushing the land depth, the root maximizes its potential in order to keep existing, every human can learn from the tree's root life principle, the human’s life should be filled by valuable information in order to create more positive value, the main problem why people need to deal with the pain because they haven’t enough ability to undergo the life's challenge, we must understand that the nature’s habit is always growing, strengthening, adapting, if we don’t follow the nature’s life concept, we will be defeated by the pain, the purpose of life is not looking for pleasure, but looking for maturity, the reason why we are not recommended to look for pleasure at the first journey because most pleasure in this world is deceiver, it is stated clearly in holy Qur’an Surah Al Hadid (57) verse 20 : “the world pleasure is not but deceiver”, the meaning of that verse; if we want to stay strong, we must put our biggest attention to learn more, not to put our big attention to the world pleasure because every single of pleasure can’t help us to solve the problem.


     Remember this; our life purpose is finding our happiness into the type of work we choose, if we just find job for money, we will get the pain, if we pick up job for happiness, we will get a godsend, at this moment, I would share several tips how to deal with pain, here is the first thing you can do; learning from the nature’s characteristic, means, you allow yourself to be a student again and learn something new when you have reached the comfort zone, you have to keep looking for the information which it can increase your self-awareness, remember; you can't change your paradigm until you can find good information to nourish your mind, that's the first journey how to deal with pain, only valuable information can help you to change your paradigm, here is my advice; don’t spend your major time to look for entertainment because it can’t solve your pain, do you know why entertainment can’t solve your pain because it is against with the nature's demands, self-confidence and self-esteem can’t be upgraded by enjoying the entertainment, instead both of them come from your determination, preparation and daily practice, here is the second thing you need to do how to deal with pain; you must have a dream, you have to ensure your dream is giving you happiness and also it can seduce your emotional intelligence to grow, if you live on your dream, your pain will convert into enthusiasm, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   


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How to deal with the haters


     Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “how to deal with the haters”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone can deal with the haters, some of us will get angry every time there are the haters who put their sense of insecurities to us, from that circumstance, don’t let feeling guilty is bigger than our happiness, we have to ignore their sense of insecurity which it is trying to put on our feeling, remember this advice; the hater is born not to make us feel guilty, but the hater is born to get us stronger than we were yesterday, it would better we apologize what haters don’t know about us, don't let they know more about us rather than we know ourselves, when we feel bad about what the haters talk, they already win because they succeed to attract more negative energy for us, as impact, we will get the pain of regret, sad, anxiety, unmotivated, and revenge, here is my opinion; if you want to get happy although you are surrounded by many haters, you can consider them as your competition in the race, if you focus on your strength, you will master your inner powers and you will master the competitor’s weaknesses, but if you prefer to focus on your competitor’s strength rather than focus on your strength, you let your competitor wins.


     We don’t need to waste our time to care about the hater’s habit, every human has 24 hours, if we use 1 hour to care what the haters talks about what we don't know, we lost 1 hour of opportunity to care about our future, remember; if we consider time is the most precious thing in life rather than other resources on earth, there is always more positive thing we can learn rather than the amount of the negative thing, life is not happening to us unless we allow it to come, basically life is going to happen when it is responding what we react, means, if we respond with negative thinking, everything around us will attract negative energy, if we respond with positive thinking, everything around us will attract positive energy, all good thing are started with silent conversation with ourselves, if we always consider every day we get problem, the problem always comes although there is no the hater's existence, but if we always consider problem is like godsends, the problem will cure by itself, we can't change bad circumstances until we can master our own thinking, our job as human is not changing the reality, but we are responsible to change situation within our mind, now here is the question “how can we endure problem if we just wait the changes in life”, we don’t have much time to wait the miracle, let ourselves focus on something we can do, not to do something we can't do, the best respond to negative thing is we make it more silent by setting new goal for welcoming the future, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   


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What does it take to acquire discipline?

 

       Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “what does it take to acquire discipline?”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people can’t stand against discipline, some people consider applying discipline can attract more pain and suffering, some people consider applying discipline can treat them like living in the jail, some people think discipline will destroy their freedom of action, in fact, none of the statements are correct, discipline is the bridge how to connect between goal and process, at this moment I would share something to you about benefit of discipline if you are willing to try, here is the first step what does it take to acquire discipline; you develop self-awareness about the importance thing in your life area, maybe you can ask “what changes do I need to make in order to attain my goals”, if you get the answer, you will be driven to do something different from time to time, remember this note; discipline can invite the power to change your habit, discipline can absorb new inspiration, discipline can eliminate the dangerous thing which may come into your life, here is the second step what does it take to acquire discipline; be honest with what you want, means, you don’t leave the visualization of your wants and you keep saying to yourself “I will do it because my future needs my creativity"


       You can ask yourself if you feel doubt “Am I willing to be ready to take risk and endure the mental suffering?” remember; sometimes our mindset blocks our intention every time we want to do something new, the most important thing is you follow what the nature demands you to do, means, you feel happy to do without any disturbance from the third party, here is the third step what does it take to acquire discipline; stay committed about your short, medium, long term goal, means, you make a list about what you achieve, it is very hard to do because it will train you how to attract good personality, I just want to remind you that your luck and destiny really needs your good personality, you will sacrifice many things in order to pursue your goal, such leaving your worthless hobby, leaving the party from your friend’s invitation, leaving your invalid excuse, etc. Here is the fourth step what does it take to acquire discipline; you have created the artificial emergency in your circumstance, means, you don’t stay casual anymore about your daily activity and you create your own sense of urgency in order to make big difference in your life history, in my opinion; you need to make your own calendar which it stated “the reward and punishment”, means, if you achieve your target on time, you celebrate it, such as you will purchase the good thing to support your mental health, if you don’t achieve your target on time, you punish yourself by leaving what you love to do, such as playtime, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   


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Anyone can get lucky, but not everyone can persevere

 

     Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “anyone can get lucky, but not everyone can persevere”, the reason why I choose that topic most people don’t realize every day they get luck from what they have done in their activity, unfortunately not everyone can maximize what they get from luck because they are too loyal with what they behave and what they think, so luck doesn't grow fast, if someone gets luck, it has been measured by his mental capacity, if someone chooses to persevere because he gets challenge to do something bigger than luck itself, now, what are you going to do if you believe luck is happening? if you feel happy with what you're doing in your work, that means, luck happens at your work, if you prefer to work for luck rather than your job, luck is working for what you can't finish, whatever you think about luck, it doesn’t betray you, luck always serves what you need as long as you persevere, if luck can say something like a person, it will say to you “you are more capable than you imagine”, means, there is big guarantee awaits you if you're willing to do something with sincerely, remember this note; luck wants to meet you not because you are human being, but luck wants to meet you because you keep practicing your potential.


   Remember this advice; great person will not put his good career on luck, but great person always start something without fear, doubt and worry, if you feel enthusiast every time you do something, that means, you deserve to get something you awaited, please don’t waste your potential by doing something worthless because you will get more regret than the power of luck, all you need to do now is keep increasing your potential and keep adapting with new opportunity and new obstacles, let other people know about your luck, so they will give you another luck, here is the universe’s law about luck; “the more you give, the more you receive, the more you repeat what you do, the stronger you deal with big risk”, in my opinion; hard work is logical way how to develop luck, you have to lead your luck towards the destination you want to go, don't let your luck is gone by doing something unnecessarily and dangerously, such as you give up on your dream every time you meet with adversity, you have to keep nourishing your luck by helping other people's lives, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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Don’t pray for easier life, but pray for better life


     Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “don’t pray for easier life, but pray for better life”, the main reason why I choose that topic because most of us pray for easier life, we think this life is creating chaos, complexity and suffering, that's just opinion, every life will give reflection to what we do in daily activity, life will not change if our subconscious mind is still expecting about the fear of poverty and we are overcautious about something we are going to do for the future, remember this; if our sense of fear is greater than our capability, we will never get any idea how to fix our capacitymost of us fear something unclear although we have already prayed in many times, the problem why we still fear to face reality because our fear vibration is greater than our sense of optimism, remember about the enemy of our mind; indecision, doubt and fear, I just want to remind you that praying for easier life will not make you stronger than you were yesterday, you can change the praying content to God like this “God, grant me wisdom, ingenuity, patience, new strength”, that’s praying content will help you to shape a better belief, sometimes the praying content can give you new enthusiasm if you are making habit of it, your life will not change at all as long as you spend your major time to avoid new challenge or you don't dare to set goal, here is the negative impact if you don't dare to set goal; your life will not upgrade your quality of happiness level, here is the additional note; your quality of happiness is not caused by external cause (money, possession, reputation and fame), but your quality of happiness is lies into your internal growth (good personality, good habit, good service, dream, and growth mindset).


    We are today because we are the product of our commitment, if we aren’t happy about our decision because we don’t put our commitment into bigger purpose, the reason why we need to make bigger purpose because it is intended to immobilize our fear of poverty and fear of failure, remember; our happiness is not pursuing what we attract, but happiness is pursued by our accumulated act on the right track, so as human being who is granted by infinite powers and freewill, we don’t need to spend our major time to pursue easy journey, now here is the initial step how to make our lives is worthwhile; stop hating with failure and don’t pray for less problem, the main reason why we don’t need to hate about failure because it is against with our essence of living, our essence of living lies into our thinking about biggest problem that we can endure, the more we hate with failure, the more we will be stayed away from opportunity, if we follow opportunity that we think it is appropriate with our purpose, we can continue it, a better life is not living into stagnant belief, but a better life is living into true faith and wisdom, basically we can’t change our destiny until we can leave our fixed mindset and we increase self-awareness through study, sometimes we need to taste painful experience in order to break our limitation, if we want to go to the different phase, we need to do the adapting process until our strength is enough to stay into the achievement level, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  


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