• Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

Four critical habits for our peace in life

 


    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “four critical habits for our peace in life”, the main reason why I choose that topic because these critical habits can help us how to design our good future, besides that, these critical habits can strengthen our mental and it can break the obstacle which may obstruct our vision, unfortunately there are many people can’t possess these critical habits because they are too loyal with the unproductive habits where they possessed it in the past, remember this nature; there is no good circumstance or bad circumstance which can influence to the human's behavior, life is giving an option to us, there is only a fixed mindset and a growth mindset, as we know a growth mindset can’t happen automatically in this life without being developed by discipline in action, whereas, a fixed mindset can happen by default, whether we like it or not with the system, a fixed mindset really hates with a new change and it always embraces with poor habit, if a fixed mindset has not been developed yet, it will create a poor habit and a doom for human, remember this advice; once a poor habit grows, a disaster grows, all disaster is started by human's ignorance, fear and indecision, at this moment let me share something to you about four critical habits for our peace in life, here is the first critical habit we need to develop; accept only what’s true, the reason why we need to accept what’s true because it can attract the abundance of life such as peace, love, prosperity, wisdom, and temperance, we can't develop a good habit without learning from what's true and avoid what's wrong, the true information comes from the nature philosophy, the universe's law, proven knowledge and proven religion, if four of them are connected into each other, they can guarantee about our futureif we just accept the information from the untrustworthy resource, it will lead us to the misleading way, once we go directly to that path, as result, we will consume the poor quality of information from untrustworthy resource, that's not good idea because it will impact to our habit, once our habit creates a problem for us, it will bring a bad impact to our inner peace, if we feel happy about what we learn even though it contains a difficult road, that's true path, remember; only difficult road often leads us to the beautiful journey.



    Here is the second critical habit we need to develop; work for the common good, means, if what we do at work can improve our working performance and also it can bring a good impact to others, that’s proper job because it can increase our wealth, as we know a wealth comes from having a good relationship to others, as long as there is a promising happiness in our work, we must keep doing it although it is difficult, if our work can invite a short term satisfaction in our work, we must leave it because that's not good job, in my opinion; please don’t work for money only, if you work for money, your skill can’t be upgraded to the next level because money can manipulate your enthusiasm with high satisfaction, if there is a high satisfaction in your work, there is a low level in your skill set, but if you work because you follow your intuition, good ambition and natural instinct, your masterpiece will promote your career, that’s good news, remember; everything which can lead someone to do a good deed at his work, his work ethic can bring happiness for him and everything which can lead someone to fear, it is not part of good work even though someone gets high payment to do, here is the third critical habit we need to develop; match our needs and our wants with what is in our controlmatch our needs and our wants with what is in our control,  the reason why we need to match between our needs and our wants in our control because it can prevent us to buy something we don’t really need and we can enlarge the amount of money in our savings, if our habit can't match between our needs and our wants, as result, we always buy something without having an investing habit, in the end of the day, we will stay broke, remember this; just because we are financially free today, it doesn't mean tomorrow we will be free, here is the fourth critical habit; embrace what nature has in store to us, means, we can dig our potential by doing something more than what we are expecting, if we are making habit by giving more to others and expecting less from others, the world will give an opportunity to us to evolve what we create and we will get unimaginable gift from the nature because the nature's habit has united with our habits, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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Hope and fear are living in the same wanting

  

Fear is like dark cloud, Hope is like sunny day, both is not our control

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “hope and fear are living in the same wanting”, the meaning of that topic is wanting is not kind of good reason to obtain what we don’t have, hope and fear will come to our time and both of them will try to disband our focus, especially when we are attempting to pursue the target, do you know the reason why we need to leave hope and fear from our 24 hours because both of them can destroy our focus, we can’t separate hope and fear by doing what we like or doing what we dislike, hope and fear are produced by our perception, all great things in life is coming from reality and a long term preparation“the more we use hope and fear to execute what we are doing now, the more we get the pain of suffering”, if we suffer, we can't maximize our mind potential, as result, our power of focus will be gone, here is the special note; what causes people to suffer is not making mistake, but the want too much is what causes worry and suffer, remember; the power of focus is not determined by our hope or our fear, but it is determined by our courage to make a new mistake, create a vision and discipline in action, if you want to know about the best way to eliminate a sense of fear is being a visionary, do you know the benefit of being a visionary? we can control what we must control, such as our perception, habit, thought and opinion, they are the basic components how to design a bright future, "if we can’t control what we control, we can’t control our hope and eventually we will fear of everything"

             

     Remember; we don’t need to fight against reality because it represents what we aim, all we can do as human is make a progress of what we learn every day, if there is no progress in what we did in the past, that means, our hope and our fear is greater than what we believe about our future, at this moment let me share something to you how to eliminate the pain of affliction which is caused by having a sense of fear/hope, here is the first thing you must do if you want to eliminate a sense of fear/ hope; don’t resist reality, the reason why we don't need to resist reality because reality is self-reflection from what we did in the past, if we blame reality, we cast out ourselves from true happiness, some wise men say “if you can accept reality, you are ready to take a life test and you will be happy person, if you reject reality, you will be forced to taste the painful experience that you don’t want to taste”, here is the second thing you must do if you want to eliminate a sense of fear/ hope; don’t let the circumstance controls what you do, the reason why we don’t allow the circumstance controls what we do because the circumstance is part of a life test, if we allow the circumstance controls us, we will get something that we don’t deserve to get and we will lose something valuable, such as opportunity, luck, idea, and wisdom, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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Cease to hope and you will cease to fear

  


     Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “cease to hope and you will cease to fear”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people fear to face about their future, the root cause why they must fear about their future because their sense of fear about failure is greater than what they hope in real life, if you ask me where does a sense of fear come?, it comes from inequality between a high expectation and high performance skill, in order to eliminate sense of fear, we must not hope other people will do more than what we can do, remember this note; the most fearful experience that most people have in the world is putting the higher expectation to others than what they can do in reality, if they are making habit of it, they will reject whatever the future offers to them, remember this advice; people who fear about their own future is equal with people who don't dare to admit Almighty God's existenceif we want to eliminate about sense of fearfulness, we must stop hoping to others constantly and we start to feel grateful about what we get from God's grace, the worst thing in life will happen when we believe with our memory rather than we believe with our determined action, that’s common mistake where most people do, the sensible reason why we need to cease to hope to others because not every single person has the same as our vision, “the more we push other people to join with us, the more we lose our confidence”, so we don't need to ask other people to join with us if they don’t accept with our vision, there are several benefits if we cease to hope to others, here is the first benefit we will get if we cease to hope to others; we can prepare our own craft uninterrupted until it would become the best masterpiece, besides that, if we prepare our own craft, God will arrange something to welcome our craft with unimaginable benefits, remember this; only consistency and determination can answer what we fear most.

  

    Here is the second benefit we will get if we cease to hope to others; we will not get disappointed about what other people make a mistake, here is good news if we focus on what we canwe will get fewer obstacle and fewer competition in the future because we have surpassed against our own limitation, that’s biggest gift where most people don’t get comprehend, our main job is to decrease our sense of fear by increasing more productivity and increase our uniqueness through masterpiece, if we can defeat our sense of fear, there is no more obstacles can block our action because we build a strong mentality, validate reason and embrace our uniqueness in the past, here is the third benefit we will get if we cease to hope to others; we can measure our strength and we can respect our weaknessessometimes in this life we often behave like unprepared person to face the crisis, the reason why we feel such thing because we are too cautious about what we start, if we are too cautious, as result, we will always complaint about what we start, starting from today, we must recognize what we fear most and what we hope most before we want something, don’t let our hope exceeds what we are capable off because it is going to frustrate us, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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Know where motivation comes from

 

Motivation comes from what you fear most that you don't want it happens

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “know where motivation comes from”, the main reason why I choose that topic many people are looking for someone else who can share the words of motivation to them, but not until all day, many people lose their motive to do something, once again I will say that we don’t need to look for motivation when we want to do something, the biggest motivation comes from the pain of fear that we don't let it happen, plus, motivation needs preparation and a tough practice to synchronize between soul, mind and heart, if we just spend our major time to do something in our job without any strong motive on it, we will not get what we want, instead, we will be forced by reality to accept what we don’t want, that’s game of life, at this moment let me share something to you how to know where motivation comes from, here is the first thing you need to do if your life wants to get motivated by reality; you must behave like the future-oriented person, means, you must go through your plan in tough times, you keep continuing what you start although you get the unpleasant experience,  that's good choice, create a new mistake indicates that you admit that you don't know about the future and you have shown your best performance, a person who believes with his own future, he will not leave what he starts because he understands about the consequence, so there is no excuse to avoid what he starts, remember this advice; if you have a good reputation by doing what you start although it is difficult, you will know where motivation comes from.

Motivation needs preparation and strong evidence


   Remember this advice; we don’t need to be great to start something, but what we need to do is start the process until we can fix what went wrong in what we are doing, if we are waiting until we become self-righteous man, we will never get the momentum of happiness from the process, if you think what you start is going to heal what you fear most, you must do it immediately!, here is the second thing you need to do if your life wants to get motivated by reality; don’t do something for money, means, you do something because there is a promising happiness which lies in what you are doing, if you just do something for money, you will do something for increasing your bad mood and you will get angry easily if you failed to do something, in my opinion; you have to avoid the activity where it can drain your emotional intelligence rapidly, such as drinking alcohol, playing social media for hours, playing online game, idling away to the mall without having any plan to go there, watching the cinema for hours, if you hang around in those places where it can't give you a high value, you will never get a true motivation to do something great, instead you will get a short term satisfaction which leads you to the pain of suffering, here is the third thing you need to do if your life wants to get motivated by reality; you must have a big dream and your behavior must be congruent with it, means, you have to commit with your dream and you ensure your behavior can support your big dream, if your behavior is not congruent with what your dream needs, as result, you can’t manifest what you dream into reality and your dream only makes you frustrated, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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6 emotional enemies inside our mind

 



     Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “6 emotional enemies inside our mind”, the main reason why I choose that topic because every human being has own enemy where it lies into their mind and not everyone can recognize what is the enemy looks like, basically the human’s real enemy is not like something which can be seen in the real life, the real enemy lies in the human’s emotional intelligence, that enemy often can influence human’s mind to do something through the human's daily habit, unfortunately most people don't get it clear how to recognize the human's enemy, at this moment I would like to share about 6 emotional enemies where it lies into our mind, here is the first enemy inside our mind; unclear fear / uncontrolled fear, the main reason why I say such thing because uncontrolled fear is caused by our ignorance towards our capacity, remember this note; if we don’t recognize our limitation, we will get the pain of uncontrolled fear, the more we ignore to know about our limitation, the more we receive the pain of regret, if we are making habit of it, we will prophesy ourselves to become a desperate guy in the future, if we become what we don't want to be in the future, finally our own enemy can defeat us, in order to eliminate the unclear fear, we must prepare ourselves with knowledge and some skillful expertise, here is the second enemy inside our mind; indifference, this enemy often gives us about the poor visualization to the human’s mind, the reason why we get the poor visualization in our mind because we often fuel our emotions with a short term gratification, if we are making habit of it, we don't dare to take bigger mission in this life, finally we behave indifference about what happens in this life, remember this; we will always get approached by a sense of indifference if we aren't serious to plan something ahead in our lives, in order to eliminate a sense of indifference, we must leave our past mistake in the past and learn how to treat people well with our courtesy.


                 


   Here is the third enemy inside our mind; indecision, the main reason why we will get a sense of indecision because we always train our mind to fear about the new risk, having indecision is not good for our mind because it always offering something we don’t need to execute, so we must beware about a sense of indecision, in my opinion; we have to test our mistake whether it can invite a dangerous impact or not, we will never know the risk if we don't test ourselves, "the more we try, the more we eliminate our indecision", that's strategy how to eliminate a sense of indecisionhere is the fourth enemy inside our mind; doubt, basically this enemy often comes to our mind when we don’t have any reference to argue with it, in order to fight against this enemy, we must increase our knowledge, if we are not sure how to fight against doubt, we must leave something which it has potential to create self-doubt, remember; doubt will grow faster if we let our stupidity increasing, to eliminate it, we must sharpen our capacity over long periodhere is the fifth enemy inside our mind; worry, this is part of common mental disease, worry comes to our mind when we don’t focus on what we control, such as perception, behavior, opinion and mindset, in order to eliminate a sense of worry, we just need to focus about what we can and don't do something where it can invite a dangerous impacthere is the sixth enemy inside our mind; timidity, this is kind of enemy always lets us know about our lacking resource, in order to increase our courage, we must allow ourselves to get defeated by the game we play with and ponder why we must get defeated over and over again, basically 6 emotional enemies are designed by God to get us stronger than our imagination, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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8 things successful people do for developing their habit

 


   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “8 things successful people never waste”, the reason why I choose that topic because not everyone can appreciate about their time, besides that, some of them consider their time is being used to do what they love and reject what they don’t love, in fact, everything in this life will not happen without time and effort, even though it is negative, successful people always appreciate their time rather than appreciate their money because they realize "if there is no a time appreciation, there is no payment", now if we realize about the reality of life such thing, we shouldn't waste our major time for nothing and repeat the mistake like what poor people always do, our life time's job is how to reduce a time waste activity as possible we can and we change our focus by offering our troubleshooting to others, at this moment, I would like to share bout 8 things successful people never waste, hopefully this lesson can inspire you, here is the first thing successful people do for developing their habit; they use a little of their time to hang around into social media, instead, they use social media as the facilitation to spread their idea, promote their business, and many positive things, the reason why successful people don’t want to hang around for too long into social media  because social media offers a meaningless purpose rather than offers the benefithere is the second thing successful people do for developing their habit; they don’t go through the day without a plan, means, successful people realize that time is more valuable than money, so they will create a daily plan in order to reevaluate about what they do and how they exploit new opportunityhere is the third thing successful people do for developing their habit; they don’t do emotionally draining activities, means, they don’t want to waste their major time by doing something where it can't accelerate what they prepare for the future, such as, watch (TV, cinema, drama), attend a concert, play online game, drinking alcohol because those activities are belonging to emotionally draining activities.

                 

  Here is the fourth thing successful people do for developing their habit; they don’t worry about things they can’t control, the reason why successful people don’t do that because they know their limitations and they realize what they can’t control is part of Almighty God’s willhere is the fifth thing successful people do for developing their habit; they don’t hang out with toxic people / negative people, the main reason why they don’t do that because they know toxic people / negative people can’t offer good value to the successful people’s future, here is the sixth thing successful people do for developing their habit; they don’t dwell on the past mistakes, do you know why? Because successful people work based on progression, not the past mistakes, they work like a future-oriented person and they always feels optimistic about what they aim, that’s reason why successful people don’t revenge about the past mistakes, besides that, they assume every the past mistakes as a stepping stone towards the overnight success, so we can conclude that every failure is the mother of all successes, here is the seventh thing successful people do for developing their habit; they don’t focus on what other people doing, the reason why successful people do that because they know every human has own capacity and different mission, here is the eighth thing successful people do for developing their habit; they don’t put themselves in the last priority, means, they will put themselves in the first priority, the reason why successful people do that because they have to be a pioneer who can create a new wealth for everyone else, so other people can utilize the successful people's wealth for making kindness and peace, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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The six steps of surrendering to God’s will

  


       Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “the six steps of surrendering to God’s will”, the main reason why I choose that topic because most people are resisting about God’s will and they think they can fight their own problem by their own version, in my opinion; this kind of attitude can open a new disaster for their own lives because they don’t consider Almighty God’s will as real, if we want to know whether Almighty God is willing to answer our praying or not, we can refer to every progress we make into our future project and the size of problem we meet in every day, if we feel enthusiast by doing something although it is difficult, that's God's grace,  basically problem we have now is not part of punishment, but it is kind of godsend, Almighty God will show His grace to us if we admit our ignorance and we love about the limitation He sets for us, if we obey with the limitation He sets, there is a way we can do, if we stay awake about the consequences we have taken, so we will get something new from the situation we let in, remember this; God will do nothing magnificent if we do nothing magnificent, sometimes we must behave like the initiator who does own project and focus on what we prefer to study, if we fail during attempting something, all we can do as human is reevaluate about something we have finished and we accept it as a stepping stone to recognize about God's will.

                     

  

   We are not allowed to consider God is going to destroy our endeavor if we don’t get what we want, sometimes God will replace what we want into something we really need, the reason why God does something unimaginable for us because He knows a lot about our strength and capacity, besides that, and not all what we want is being needed by the future’s problem, Almighty God demands us to always learn because there is no single person will know about their own in the future, if we don't spend our time to learn, our mindset will direct us to take the evil deeds, if we don't take new responsibility about what happen in life, our soul power will not reveal the truth, do you know why God wants us to be a prepared person ? Because there are many unknown condition and situation where it will test our endurance and test our power of faithif we always stays open-minded about something new and stay curious about something we never know, as result, we will recognize with Almighty God’s will and we won’t get lost in our life journeyhaving a vast knowledge and skillset is the light where it has been used to enlighten our life path, here are sixth steps of surrendering to God’s will; 1. Don’t resist reality, 2. Don’t worry about something we can’t control, 3. Don’t regret about what’s leaving us, 4. Don’t complain about what we receive and don’t demand what we don’t deserve to get, 5. Don’t ask for help before what we prepare is ready, 6. Surrender the outcome to Almighty God, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

 

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Acceptance of God's will is the first journey how to design the future

                                                                    



       Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “acceptance of God's will is the first journey how to design the future”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not all people can accept Almighty God' will as the best partnership in their lives, besides that, most people consider their future lies in other people’s dreamno surprising why they can’t progress what they start in life because their feeling, action, plan and thoughts are not congruent with Almighty God's will, do you understand it? In order to solidify between our intention and God's will, we must do what makes us uncomfortable and help people to solve their problem, it doesn't matter whether there is someone else or not who wants to support our future plan, once we accept Almighty God as the best partnership, He will arrange what we need and support what we need to prepare in order to manifest our idealism in this life, here is advice; the main cause why we suffer easily in our own lives because we lack of preparation to face what will happen in this life and we underestimate our precious time to learnbasically there are three thing where we need to do in daily activity; 1. Study about what we are curious most, 2. Solve a daily problem constantly 3. Follow God's wisdom and find His grace, if we don't invest our major time to do three things in our activities, as result, we prophesy our future to meet with our doom and gloom, here is the additional note for you; after you are willing to accept God's will as partnership in the first journey, you must create your own vision as the second journey and you ascertain your future in line with your idealism, the word "your own vision" means, there is something you must finish in a long term journey.



      Almighty God is like a life architecture where it provides the consequence system, the unchanging rule, the universe, the space, the time and the wisdom, if we realize God is always around, we should believe that he is going to guide us in life, remember; this life will never be easy, if this life is easy, the animal, the mountain and other creatures will take over our position as human who can contract with the power of imagination and the power of beliefthe best thing to know whether Almighty God stays in line with our plan, we must leave something which it has potential to lead us go to the place where it provides a vulnerable comfort and convenience, such as smoking marijuana, consuming illegal drugs, drinking alcohol, playing free sex, watching pornography, gambling at casino, holding the party with friends at the nightclub, going to see a fortuneteller, swindling people with the unfair treatment, believing with horoscope, stealing things and playing online money game, those are activities where it can increase God’s wrath and He doesn't want you to commit because it is too dangerous for our future and it will contract an evil desire, if we don’t leave what God prohibits, how can we design the future successfully? That’s consequence we need to know, if our sense of love towards the worldly stuff is greater than our sense of love to God, our soul is unable to accept God's will forever, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   


 

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Never complain and never explain about your pain

                                                                      

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “never complain and never explain about your pain”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people can handle their pain, most of them share their pain to others because they think their pain will reduce its load by itself if the pain will be shared, remember; the pain will grow faster by sharing, if you want to relieve the pain that you suffer, don’t expect other people will do the same like what you do, but change your focus by doing what makes yourself is valuable and impact to others, such as share your good experience to others or you don't add the terrible thing to other people's lives, remember; you can't share the darkness to lighten other people's darkness, only knowledge and the truth can reduce what you suffer, not all pains can be reduced by spreading it to other people because every human has different capacity, every human has own problem since they were born, please don't add some portions on it, the problem is not about the size of the pain, but how you accustom with it with your lifestyle, if you give your pain with your focus energy on it, you will multiple it, if you give your pain with your long term mission, your pain will no longer effecting you, in my opinion; don’t focus on the root of problem you faced, but focus on what you can do for your craftnot all problems are designed to push you solving it, some problems in this life are designed by God to keep you focus and keep you developing your mission.


   The pain is like having the happiness, sometimes you can’t explain why you must feel happiness and sometimes you also don't know why you must feel pain, if you can't differentiate between your satisfaction and your happiness, that's problem in your life, basically pain and happiness are living in the same condition in your mental factory, if your ability can exceed your satisfaction, you will get happiness, if you can't overcome your satisfaction, then you will get pain, don't push other people to give what they can't because everybody has different painhere is the key how to reduce your pain; know your weakness and establish your strengthremember; doing what makes you happy doesn’t mean it will solve your problem forever, sometimes there is an inevitable pain that you don’t need to solve, an inevitable pain is God’s blessing, you can’t eliminate your pain by doing something you love to do such as picnic, you just need to focus on the game of life that you get involved with it and you finish the rule of the game of life with your ability until you finish it completely, if you quit from the game, the pain will grow faster and life will make you depressed, the word "the game of life is not doing what you love, but do what you don't love it, you must be ready when a life mission will be sent by God"the pain will be gone if you finish the game of life, once the pain is gone, the unimaginable benefit comes to you repeatedly, you don’t need to know when the pain will go away from your life, as far as I know, the pain is sent by God to help you learning something that you never learn in anywhere place, the pain will go away by itself when you increase the frequency of a give away, here is the additional advice; the momentum of new life will begin when the pain no longer hurts us, the pain will not effect to us when our mental capacity is greater than our suffering, if we don't get panic when there is something unpleasant, means, we are stronger than the problem we face, if we want a life pressure will become our captive, our feeling, action, thought and words must be aligned with our dream, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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The strong person accepts responsibility

 


    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “the strong person accepts responsibility”, the meaning of that topic is life is not talking about what human suffer, but life is always talking how human can endure responsibility, as we know life is full of uncertainty and sometimes it is intolerable, there is no longer time to take full time of rest because every day is preparation to welcome what human don't expect, Almighty God grants us the freewill in order to let us know about the consequence if we are living on earth, there are two options which can be chosen by human beings, being good person and being evil person, if we commit to become good person, we must compel ourselves to do a virtue as lifetime job, that's personal responsibility, if we are not making habit of it, we will lose the vision, as result, we will nurture our thought with the evil momentbeing good person can attract new risk and new consequence, whereas, being evil person also can attract bigger risk and bigger consequence than what good person gets, if we are making habit of how to behave like being good person, there is no more room in our heart for sense of negativity or blaming Almighty God, that’s important note, if you want to take new responsibility, you must dig deep within yourself and ask yourself “how can I prepare myself if I meet with unpleasant moment every day?”, remember; someone who has a weak soul, he always limits what his soul can attract, only someone who possess a strong soul can accept new responsibility.


   Don’t wait for your perfect readiness if you want to get new responsibility, life only gives you a new responsibility if you spend your major time to practice your craft over long time period, you and I will never know about the limitation of how to accept responsibility from God, maybe you will hear this wise words; “great power comes great responsibility”, means, the more you have a big dream, the more often you attract the consequence from you dream, you don’t need to know whether God will give a great power or not, what you need to do is do what you can and do what you can control as if tomorrow is a judgment day, if you want to realize whether you have great power or not is depending how often you give the precious thing to others, here is the note "we always get what we give, if we give something extraordinary, we will get something extraordinary, if we don't give, guess what? we don't get what we deserve", all greatness is started from our kindness and deepest care to others, we must have a strong reason if we want to share our kindnessthe great power will be granted by Almighty God to someone who always prepares something great for facing the evil moment, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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You are the actor of your life scenario

                                                               



          Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “you are the actor of your life scenario”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people understand about their life scenario, the main cause why not many people can understand about their life scenario because they just spend their time to enjoy what they can do and ignore how to prepare for facing the uncertainty of life, as the creature of habit, we must train our habit to adapt new adversity if we want to prolong our survival instinct, we must focus with our role and do like the actor who will finish the rehearsal, we don’t need to play a role if we consider the life scenario isn't the line with our big interest, life is always changing all the time, but not all changes are good for us, we just need to work for finding the uniqueness and authenticity of ourselvesif we just follow what other people do, as result, there is no opportunity for us to improve what we need to improve, like mindset, perception, habit, and behavior, we don't need to focus what most people always do because we are restricted by our life scenario time, remember this; God doesn’t demand us to be expert at anything, but He demands us to be a better person who always prepares for facing the worst thing, maybe we think we can’t always finish what we start, but God always finish what we can’t do, our main job as human is not finishing something great, but starting something simpler, adapt with adversity and create something which it can enlighten everyone else's lives, although life doesn’t guarantee our success, but life can facilitate what we do, if we are making habit of it, we will be guided by our creation to find bigger life scenario and we live there.                            



   If you think you are not actor of your life scenario, you will feel distress every time you go everywhere because you aren't serious to design your own life scenario, the reason why you need to be actor in your own life scenario because there is no single person can guarantee what your future looks alike, the key how to become a good actor is you live into rehearsal and you don't stop until you finish the scenarioif you don’t maximize your power of visualization to sketch the possibility of your future, you will live into other people's dream, remember this note; life will be certainty if you visualize what you feel enthusiastic to learn and you focus on the clearest goal you want to finish, as actor, you don't need to wait someone else applauds about your lifework, you just need to ensure what you are doing can bring the useful thing to your family as well as others, if you aren't serious to execute your future plan, as result, life is always frightening in your imaginationif you can play your life scenario successfully, other people will come to your life and you will gain many opportunities from it, if you think you can't deal with big problem, it is just the matter of time, you don't need to focus about how much time you need to finish big problem, all you need to do is focus how you improve on your craft progressively, if you focus to finish your lifework, God will help you to eliminate your big problemno matter how great your preparation, at the end of the day, the ultimate outcome is in the lap of God, you don't need to protest how difficult of your life scenario, God knows your mental capacity and know your limitation, let God works for you as film director and you just need to play role from God's scenario, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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When life gives you pain, the nature gives you an antidote

  


     Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “when life gives you pain, the nature gives you an antidote”, the reason why I choose that topic because not many people are willing to taste an antidote from the law of nature, the main cause why most people don't taste an antidote of the nature because they don't allow themselves to taste the pain of suffering, that's the cause and effect's lawremember this note; everyday life gives us only 3 things; the uncertainty of moment, the ignorance about information, and the anticipation, if we realize life gives us with such thing, here is our best response towards what life gives; we should not stay casual with some entertainments around us for longer time and we must prepare something for our skills, do you know why? Because life will never wait us and life will never compromise about what we do, our main job as human being is not waiting the best opportunity nor we are waiting for somebody to give us a hand, but our main job is how we exploit every opportunity with the utmost preparation and we can utilize the momentum of change, remember; life is always changing all the time, if we are not ready to prepare for new change, life gives us 5 pains, such as the pain of regret, the pain of disappointment, the pain of losing, the pain of fear and the pain of regression, in order to sharpen our survival instinct, we practice a lot and we keep resisting a lot against the uncertainty of life in order to increase our mental capacity and increase our confidence, no matter how smart we are, we can’t solve the problem if we aren’t feeling confident about it, that’s reality.


    We will never know when the nature gives us an antidote, we only can attract it by maximizing our disciplined action, fulfill what the future demands of us, and increase our intellectual capacity periodically, the best moment how to get antidote from the nature when we get failure over and over again without we are losing enthusiasm, sometimes we don’t realize about this "the more we get failure during attempting to achieve the target, the more we shape our best self in our life story", here is my opinion; please don’t fear with uncertainty of life because it is supposed to be a good moment in your life journeyif you only undergo your life journey by doing what you know and you tend to avoid to do something towards the uncertainty, as result, your life gets stuck in the place where you should not deserve it, sometimes we need to take risk tolerance in order to know how good our preparation towards the risk and how we prove our greater degree of flexibility towards the risk, here are several benefits of the antidote from what the nature gives you; you feel in peace to face the uncertainty of life, you don’t fear about the failure, your sense of creativity has developed at multiple times than as usual, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.         

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Accept what happened to your life and be resilient guy

 


     Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “accept what happened to your life and be resilient guy”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone is willing to accept what life gives to them, some people reject what life gives to them because it is not congruent what they expect and some people consider this life system is imbalance, I don't think what they feel is right because they just talk in the desperate guy's point of view, besides that, they don't learn about the criteria how to become the resilient guy, here is the first criteria; don’t behave like the past-oriented lifestyle, but learn what matters most, the main reason why I say such thing because the past time always leaves us behind, no matter how hard we struggle, we can't get what we expect from the past, if the past time goes by, we must let it goes in the past, that’s best response how to appreciate our time, we only can learn something from the past but we can’t let the past time stops what we move forward, here is the wise word we need to ponder it; what’s coming us is better than what’s leaving us, means, if we focus on what's coming into our lives, we need to finish it, but if we just focus on what we can’t control, we will never finish what we can control, that’s important note, just because we can accomplish the duty in the past, it doesn’t mean we are able to finish the different duty tomorrow, we must stay humble and be a new student who behaves know nothing and stay curious about what we can develop, don't behave like a person who always feel complacent about the past accomplishment and prepare nothing for tomorrow, if we don't welcome tomorrow's opportunity with our best preparation, tomorrow will swipe our opportunity and leave us behind in desperate living, we should consider every day as study day.

                        

   The more often we study what's coming to our lives, the less we fear with the uncertainty, if we can't finish problem today not because we are not smart, but our mental capacity is not ready to adapt with the uncertainty, our best attitude when we need to face the uncertainty is stay curious about uncertain change and prepare what we need to learn, don’t ever try to prove that we always get better and never wrong, that's kind of mindset will kill our future, the reason why we need to learn something new again until we make it as daily habit because every day is full of uncertainty, we don't know whether we will survive or die, besides that, we will never know how much mistakes we still have, that's reason why we need to learn again, sometimes God demands us to be resilient guy because He wants us know how to endure a lot of problem and suffering, what i review about most people's habit is they don’t fear about the uncertainty, but they are not ready to handle a definitive consequence, that's why most people are living poor, remember this note; if our behavior is not congruent with who we become in the future, the more often we fear about the uncertainty, there are 3 types of people’s attitude when people aren't ready to face a new change in this lifethe first type of human is they can’t change their habit because their life experience isn't adequate, the second type of human is they don’t know how to change their habit because they are trapped too often with the same problem, the third type of human is they don’t want to change their habit because they are too depressing with their own ignorance and their own limitation, now my question is “which one is the real you?”, if you don't want to be 3 type of people like above, don't get bored to learn and be a resilient guy, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.         

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Every human is born to be good, not to be born evil

Good people always spread the power of love, care and peace

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “every human is born to be good, not to be born evil”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not all people believe their character is meant to do something like what good people always do, do you know why? Because they think doing the virtue is very difficult to do and doing the virtue is not part of default habit, whereas, building a bad habit is very easy to do because it is part of default habit, remember this; there is no baby is born to be evil, so only bad influence can educate a baby how to behave like a bad person, basically being a good person doesn't depend on our religion, status in life, or culture, it is about how we treat other, there is no good or bad in this life, there is only bad attitude and good attitude where we can offer, everything in this life is designed to teach us how to prepare ourselves for facing unexpected event, not facing what we wish, we shouldn’t hate what is going to happen in this life because we aren’t entitled to reject, but we are entitled to learn from it, here is the note you need to remember; what’s coming us is better than what’s leaving us, means, some parts of this life are preparing us to do the virtue and some part of this life are giving us unexpected event in order to know about what is the best of our response towards it, that’s a survival instinct.

Nurturing a good habit is like nurturing the plant every day

                                      

   The most luckiest person is a person who prepared the most, means, good behavior is not default habit, it is the product of disciplined action, if there is person has prepared his good behavior, means, he does something to provide what others need, he will appreciate his leisure for doing the virtue even it is a tiny like the seed of atom, he will do whatever it takes in order to welcome what he doesn't want in his life, if there's a person only welcome what he really wants, his behavior will do something bad to him automatically, remember; doing the virtue is difficult to do because we need to fight our ingrained belief where it was taught long time ago in upbringing, in order to do something good every day, we need to push our limit against the darkness of life by applying discipline, commitment and constantly self-improvement, being a good person is not luck, but it is decision which is motivated by a strong will and good habit, whereas, being a bad person is very easy but there is a bad consequence behind it, do you know why? Because a bad habit always grows every time there is person doesn’t do the virtue for others every day, please try to imagine this; you have a seed to be planted in the ground, when you don’t take care to water your seed, what happens next? Weeds grow and your seed isn’t growing, that’s law of nature, although there is no man was born to be evil, the evil desire will take over our opportunity if we don’t do something good every day, that’s life exam that we need to face it every day, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.         


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Character is fate

  


   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “character is fate”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people understand how to utilize their own character for their own future, some people believe their character is used to find a job for making a secure life, some people believe their character is used to exploit every opportunity and some people believe their character is used to choose their soulmate, do you agree with them? I don’t blame what they believe, but I just want to remind you that every belief you choose is going to attract the consequence and the result will return to you immediately, in my opinion; character is like your talking mirror, do you know why? Because every character will give you what you deserve, not what you don't deserve, if you want to be a good person, you must behave like a good person’s habit where he prefers to give something what they have rather than they receive more, you can’t be good person if you hate about a life change or you reject to learn something where it brings usefulness to your life, character just gives you an option; being a student or being a teacherif you choose a teacher’s character as your dominant character, it will guide you how to stop learning about a new thing and this character tells you how to behave like self-righteous person, besides that, teacher's character will teach you how to behave like a bossy where you will consider everything in this life can be bought by you, if you are making habit with teacher's character for long period of time, unknowingly that character will teach you how to possess a bad behavior, such as opinionated, indecisive, jealous, arrogant, know it all, bossy, perfectionist, etc. Those are consequences if you choose a teacher's character.


  If you choose a student’s character as your dominant character, it will guide you how to behave like low-ranking person, by having student's character, you feel enthusiast by practicing about new skill every day because you consider yourself like a person who knows nothing, besides that, student's character will teach you how to adapt well with a new change in life, student's character will teach you how not to fear by taking risk, the student's character will teach you how to try something new although you are not expert to do something, basically, a student's character teaches you how to stay humble and always feel imperfect in every situation and every condition, those are benefits if you choose character like a student, if you think a student’s character is not suitable for you, so you will never get more than you deserve, remember; low ranking's character will invite God's blessing, God doesn't like to see a person who considers himself as perfectionist and behaves like omniscient person, is it bad character or good one?, Before the unknown circumstance controls your character, you must know what your vision wants in the future, do something what your vision wants, don’t do what your vision doesn’t want because it will contradict with your character, if you insist to do what your vision doesn’t want, you will get more unnecessary problem than get more solution, I think, your vision is the first path how to create your fate, if you feel your vision really excites you, all you need to do is do what you can, face the truth and learn about the risk tolerance, I think my explanation is enough hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.         

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