• Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

The power of optimism in life

    
  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “the power of optimism in life”, the reason why I choose that topic because not many people can unlock the power of optimism, the root of problem why people can’t activate the power of optimism within themselves because they often absorb the negative influence from the irresponsible informant, such as Television, community, basically the power of optimism will not come automatically without we discipline our habit, mind and heart to commit with the long haul, there is another factor why people can't unleash their power of optimism because they put their biggest attention to their incapability and limitation, remember this; if we really want to recognize the power of optimism, we must narrow down our largest focus to stay in our capability where it offers inner peace periodically, that’s requirement, the power of optimism will not be active easily as long as we don’t focus into what we do in daily basis, at this moment I would share several tips how to unleash the power of optimism in human’s life, here is the first tip you must do how to feel more optimistic; express your deepest sense of gratitude for what you have and don't judge something bad for what you don't have, it means, the power of optimism in your life depends on your gratitude level, if you feel pessimistic with what you have now, as impact, you won’t be happy with what you will have tomorrow, that’s rule, please don’t exchange your temporary dissatisfaction with your longevity optimism because the circumstance will create a sense of hatred to your feeling, you can put your mind off from the disarray thinking to the source of enlightenment, such as reading book, listening podcast, consulting with psychologist, here is the additional note; if we think life is always disappointing us, it is caused by our deepest hatred and we create higher expectation to something we can't change.

 

  Here is the second tip you must do how to feel more optimistic; reframe every negative events into the priceless lesson, it means, if you see something contradicted with the truth, you must not follow what other people behave wrongly even though there are many people have made it as the daily ritual, for example; even though there is Corona Virus (COVID-19) around us, we still focus to do what we can, such as we plan something for our dream, we plan how to manage financial issue, as long as we keep our nutritious food consumption, we keep the cleanliness and we focus to the important area we want to study there, there is nothing to worry about that Corona virus (COVID-19), if we just follow what the majority of people feel, our lives will get bad effect too, in my opinion; it is easier to leave people who behave wrongly rather than we leave our own bad habit, let the past becomes our priceless lesson, if we can take any lesson from our past, our negative feeling will move away, remember this advice; there is no better lesson in life rather than seeing other people who had made big mistakes in the past, we shouldn’t repeat big mistakes where other people had already made in the past, that’s strategy how to prevent us from bad behavior, here is the third tip you must do how to feel more optimistic; surround yourself with positive input, it means, you must encircle yourself with something you really need in life, such as good people, good environment, Napoleon Bonaparte said "if you can't conquer the environment, you must create your environment", I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.

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Self-discipline is a form of freedom

 

     Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “self-discipline is a form of freedom”, the reason why I choose that topic because self-discipline is one of best strategy how to anticipate what's going to happen in the future and also can help people how to counteract the unexpected moment from the future, besides that, self-discipline can help people to keep staying on the long haul, remember this advice; there is no other way around how to create a better future without applying self-discipline to the craft we have built, if someone who wants to live what he wants independently in the future, he must sacrifice by leaving his bad habit and practice his long term skill periodically until his capabilities can counteract any challenge which may interrupt his long haul, if we take a look in reality, most people use their time freedom to enlarge the capacity of enjoyment, not willing to enlarge their fierce determination capacity, the reason why we need to discipline our mind and skillset in the unknown day because life always offers something mysterious and unpredictable, if there is no self-discipline, there is no happiness, we will never know what makes us happy and unhappy until we have committed to one journey where it can answer our our uneasy feeling, but in the end of the day, there is only one thing that makes us getting freedom; the habit of learning, our happiness is determined by how much responsibility we can take, not taking something where it doesn't belong us, life happens to us when we already left something in vain and we go to a new zone where we can unleash our locked potential. 

 

  The main reason why we need to apply self-discipline in whatever activity we gets in because self-discipline can help us to prevent us from having the unproductive habit, such as laziness, expectation, demands of others, uncontrolled fear, doubt and lethargy, at this moment I would share a good clue how to get freedom, here is the thing you must do if you want to get your freedom; don't ever think that you own a free time, the reason why you need to think such thing because time doesn't belong you, time can't be controlled by you and time can't be exchanged with everything you owned on earth, the more you think that you own free time, the more you feel uneasy about what you look at reality, if time had an opportunity to speak, time will say to human "use me as your most valuable asset because everything you need already within me and everything you choose has the sequel consequence to follow you, so you can't escape from reality you created" , it means, we can't do anything without exchange our time with something we chooseRemember this advice; every second in our time has a gold opportunity, once every second goes, it will never be returned, if we don't apply self-discipline, as result, we can't treat ourselves better, if we can't treat ourselves with good treatment from our good thought and good habit, we can't treat others better because everything great comes within us, not from outside, if we can't conquer our ego, we can't develop our potential and we can't build our freedom, here is the last note; freedom of thought lies into our willingness to hold the responsibility to other people's lives, if we don't take responsibility, our lives will be tied with fleeting pleasure and painful regret, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.

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Don’t act in accordance with the standards of the majority of people


 

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “don’t act in accordance with the standards of the majority of people”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people don’t know how to live peacefully with their own standards, the root of problem why most people don't want to live with their own standard, instead, they keep struggling to fit into the standard of the majority of people because they are afraid to be different and they are afraid to be labelled as an outcast, in my opinion, that's not big problem because every human has own uniqueness and authenticity, if we are not confident due to we lack of preparation, I can accept it because it is part of consequence, remember this advice; confidence has nothing to do with the human's qualification / standard and yet confidence comes from daily practice and consistent good habit, in order to make clear standard, we need to observe what we really want to do most and what we really don't want to do most, if we don't know what to do and what not to do, life will put us to live in the standard of majority of people, before we create own standard, we need to avoid what majority of people always do in daily basis, that's requirement, after that we dig our potential by doing something we mostly underestimate to do or we tend to avoid it, if we just fit to live with the standard which it is owned by the majority of people, as result, we will never know where the potential lies around. 

 

  Here is good news; please don't hate with your own standard because it is part of your guideline how to create your own future, if you blame your standard, you tend to jeopardize your life journey, finally you will become a master of mischief in your future, remember this advice; even though you master to your standard, be lenient to everybody else because it will make you become a leader of everybody else’s confidenceyou can't sell your standard when you can't promise a better future to othersif you can do something better every day by doing what you are passionate, your standard will sell your personality to others, please beware of what your standard does something to you because not all standard can be accepted, as long as your standard can fulfill human's incapacity, you can sell your standard all the time, human’s standard has limitation but human's creativity never ends to unlock human's limitation, here is strategy how to increase your standard's price; "you have to be your own servant, don't be boss of yourself", it means, you love yourself more than what other people can do for you, you keep defending your territory land from a bad influence / irresponsible intruder, if you build your territory land with love, integrity, wisdom, knowledge, and temperance, your life will attract people's happiness, let me tell you the main reason why not everyone is happy to live on earth because they are betting themselves in the standard of the majority of people and they don’t want to build something for their own standard, here is another good news; if your standard's price is high, your life is going to demand you to keep doing to do what others can't, if your standard is unappreciated, it is caused by your ignorance and your lacking of resourcefulness, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.


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How to maintain a long term focus

  

    Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “how to maintain a long term focus”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not all people can maintain their long term focus, the root of problem why most of them can't unlock their long term focus because they have obsessed with fleeting pleasure where it leads people to the comfort temporary zone, remember this rule; if people can’t manage what they want now with something big in a long term goal, as result, people will lose the probability of success because they sell their biggest opportunity with fleeting pleasure, in order to maintain a long term focus, people need to compare between what their most satisfaction wants and what they want now, if our most satisfaction is stronger than what we want now, we will win in the probability of future because we master of the circumstance, but if our most satisfaction is less than what we want now, we will get the pain of regret and disappointment as the consequence we have chosen, before we visualize our long term goal, we need to maintain our long term focus by eliminating the unsatisfying wants which it has been created by present situation and unstable emotion, here is the first thing we need to do how to maintain our long term focus; do something which can develop our memorable character, it means, we need to repeat what our greatest character can do for us, the main reason why we need to try this strategy because it can upgrade our habit’s price and it can locate our long term visualization according to what we want most, if we can do it, we will not get distracted by fleeting pleasure easily.

   Here is the second thing we need to do how to maintain our long term focus; manage our priority, it means, we make a list about what we want now and what we want most, if we let ourselves being defeated by fleeting pleasure now, we can’t maintain our long term focus, this is most difficult challenge because we will need much sacrifice, such as leaving our comfort zone, leaving unproductive habit and going to do something uncomfortable, here is the third thing we need to do how to maintain our long term focus; forgive our failure, it means, we don't really care about whatever we fail at some points because we agree that taking failure is part of tolerance where we must take to recover our productivity, the reason why we must take failure as the first attempt because it is part of stepping stone, what matter most is not regretting to what we have done and we reevaluate about the consequence, I think this strategy is very powerful, but unfortunately most people can’t forgive their failure because they consider making failure is part of wasting time and embarrassing, in fact, there is no failure happens in vain, failure is just helping us to accelerate the power of focus and stripping away the unwanted focus, now my question to you; do you know what will happen after you take your failure? you accelerate your understanding level, here is good news; If you can forgive whatever you failed, you will get peace automatically, if you don’t forgive whatever you failed, you let your mind will be fueled with the past trauma, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.

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If we don’t reborn, we will crush our future

Run for your life before time will crush your future journey

  

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “if we don’t reborn, we will crush our future”, the meaning of that topic is if we decide to be the same person like yesterday we became, we don’t reborn, if we don’t reborn every day, we will kill our potential because we let time crushes our journey, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people hate about the future, most of them prefer to live in the past because it offered many satisfaction and certainty of life, the major problem why most people hate to reborn because they visualize the greater pain awaits them in the future, in fact, there is no single person can predict what will happen in the future, in my opinion; future is giving us the second chance to try something we never did, besides that, life would be boring if there is no challenge, so every day is always new day, if every day offers new day, it means, there is no old history and we will live like baby who is born on earth at the first time, remember this; the better decision in life is letting go what we have worked for, if we just hold our past tightly, our stress, suffering, mental illness would gnaw our whole life, if we behave like a baby every time we finished our activity within 24 hours, it means, we surrender the outcome to Almighty God, if we keep doing that ritual, our stress, suffering and mental illness is gone, that process I call as "reborn"we all know that every human has the same resource; time, energy and freewill, the only thing we can do as human is take new information as much as we can and we use it to support what we want to develop for our life purpose, if we take a look from the life cycle; born-survival-death, it means, if we don’t want to end our life journey too soon, we must reborn our potential every day before we really give up on the death.

  Maybe you will ask me, what do I need to prepare before time will crush my future? Here is the first thing you can do before time will crush your future; you need to question your life with this question “what kind of inheritance I want to leave within 5 or 10 years later?” if you can answer it, you will win in every situation you will get into it, if you can’t answer it, you kill your own hope because you don’t prepare anything valuable to support what your future needs, here is the second thing you can do before time will crush your future; you must invest the kindness more often than what you usually invest it in your career, the main reason why you must do that because your life career depends on what you give to others, if you don’t invest the kindness to others, how you affect people's emotion to use your masterpiece?, that’s important clue, the reason why the kindness is so important in your life career because the kindness can work unlimited and exceed the human's capacity, if you invest the kindness, you will receive a new capacity of receiving the returns and if you invest something in your career only, you will not get more than you deserve, here is the third thing you can do before time will crush your future; you have to ensure what left in you can become the inheritance to others, it means, your today’s footstep becomes your tomorrow’s legacy, if you don’t make today’s footstep, time will erase your chance and you have no chance to reborn your competent skill, potential, enthusiasm and craft, please do something as if you had no right to live on earth, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.

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The benefit of shared thinking


  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “the benefit of shared thinking” the reason why I choose that topic because there are many benefits we can get if we let our thought is shared to anyone else, at this moment I would share several tips why we should share our thinking; here is the first tip why shared thinking is important; shared thinking is faster than solo thinking, it means, shared thinking creates a multi-access to anyone else, creates new opportunity to grow our mental age and attracts more value to people who use shared thinking, if we compare with solo thinking, it can't give us opportunity to improve because we will never know whether solo thinking is right or wrong, but if we let others observe our shared thinking, we will get a new lesson faster from what people perceive about us, besides that, we will never be the same as the person we created yesterday because the more we share what we know to others, the more we create more room for receiving bigger return from others, that’s benefit of shared thinking, here is the second tip why shared thinking is important; shared thinking is more innovative than solo thinking, it means, shared thinking to others can help us to improve our innovative ideas and also can teach us how to increase our thinking process level, remember this advice; if we just think about thing without sharing to others, we will build egoism, whereas, shared thinking will build growth mindset.

 

 Here is the third tip why shared thinking is important; shared thinking brings more maturity than solo thinking, it means, shared thinking can educate us how to appreciate other people’s idea as well as shared thinking can add new vocabulary of the mind, if we don't dare to share our thinking, we will never know how to evolve our next thinking level whether it has good quality or nothere is the fourth tip why shared thinking is important; shared thinking is stronger than solo thinking, it is related to act of giving, there is no person can be weak as long as he keeps giving of what he has earned, especially from his own experience, as human, we shouldn’t fear about what we share because the more we share of something, the stronger we are than what we imagine, if we just use solo thinking, it educates us to become weaker person and unworthy person, here is the fifth tip why shared thinking is important; shared thinking returns greater value than solo thinking, it means, whatever we are experiencing in life, there is no such greater value than sharing what we have to others, act of giving nurtures our mind from negative emotion, the human’s mind is like the root of tree, "as above so below, as inside so outside", it means, our thought is like the seed, whatever we think, we will reap what we sow sooner or later, the more we dig potential of our mind by sharing, the more we receive a greater value from what we share, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.

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Why we must avoid popular thinking?

Popular thinking is creating self-resistance


   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “why we must avoid popular thinking?” the main reason why I choose that topic because popular thinking can’t guide everyone how to be rational thinker, besides that, popular thinking tends to ensure people feel comfortable and not to try being unique person from time to time, at this moment, I would share several reason why we must avoid popular thinking, hopefully it can help you to educate yourself how to be rational thinker and know how to adapt with reality, here is the first reason why we must avoid popular thinking; because popular thinking is guiding us how to be mediocre thinker, it means, popular thinking doesn’t want us to be different and popular thinking will not help us to recognize the problem we are facing, that’s why not everyone prefers to show their high performance skill because they don’t like thinking hard, in order to think hard, people need to possess unpopular thinking such being a unique person and do something where most people don't notice it, it would be harder for mediocre person to do it, as we know that many people want to live life the easy way, but unfortunately they don’t want to do the hard work of thinking or pay the price for success, if they are keep doing it, their lives will no different than 5 years ago, remember this; when people just follow the trend, they are not thinking, here is the second reason why we must avoid popular thinking; because popular thinking offers a false hope, it means, popular thinking is just offering the fantasy thinking to everyone and the popular thinking will separate us from doing good thing in reality, that’s bad news if it would happen in our future, don’t let popular thinking fools us again.

Popular thinking is not educating people, it is just lowering the human's potential

 

  Here is the third reason why we must avoid popular thinking; because popular thinking slows to embrace change, it means, popular thinking only thinks about the status quo, popular thinking doesn’t teach human how to adapt with the midlife crisis or how to solve insurmountable problem, popular thinking is made to remove a sense of worry for temporary and promote the popular interesting topic without caring whether any positive side or not, here is the fourth reason why we must avoid popular thinking; because popular thinking brings the average result, it means, popular thinking ensures that everybody has a mediocre living without self-improvement, so basically popular thinking is not responsible about the human's future and popular thinking just entertains people without promoting new information which may help people to solve their own problem, remember this; popular is equal with the normal living without self-education, if we just live on earth without self-education, the disaster will sweep everything good and there is no more bright future, here is the note; before we limit our success by adopting popular thinking whom mediocre people’s mind, we must challenge ourselves by making some achievements which may help us to create a new future, at this phase, we will face uncomfortable feeling because we will face many rejections and failure, I am sure not many people agree that the bright future comes from relentlessness pursuit of progress, but in reality, having relentlessness drive can create the powerful insight of future, here is the last note; the purpose of popular thinking is making us comfort and tend to ensure what we do is having a less risky and less difficult, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.

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6 signs you must be grateful for what you got

 



   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “6 signs you must be grateful for what you got”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people can reveal their grateful experience to what they are experiencing in life, if people still can’t reveal their grateful experience to God, I am afraid people’s life journey gets stuck in the place where they shouldn't belong there and they will get serious problem because they underestimate what God grants something to them, God ever said to human in the holy Quran Surah (14) Ibrahim verse 7 “if you show your gratitude to God’s favor, I will add it for you, if you deny God’s favors, you shall receive my severe punishment”, at this moment I would share about several signs that you must be grateful for what you got from God’s favors, hopefully it can give you more peace within your heart as well as your mind, here is the first sign that you must be grateful for what you got; you have a roof over your head, it means, you have a safety place to live inside even though it doesn’t belong to you, wherever you can stay under the roof, you must show your gratitude because there are many people are still homeless and they dream to live under the roof, here is the second sign that you must be grateful for what you got; you can eat today,  that’s part of daily necessity, if you can eat today, you are more luck than other people who are still hungry and take lack nutritious food for several days to survive because they don’t have a decent job, here is the third sign that you must be grateful for what you got; you have good personality, if you possess good personality, that is good news because not many people can stay in good personality, sometimes the poor condition can change people's habit and personality, if you still can attract good thing in life although you are in poor condition, means, your personality can become your great asset for increasing your chance to be rich man. 

 

  Remember; good thing comes from your thought and good personality, your quality of thought is like a seed, you will reap the seed that you plant in the future, Here is the fourth sign that you must be grateful for what you got; you can give what you love most to others, if you can do it, you should be happy and grateful because not everyone can do such thing, giving more is part of the universe’s major character, if your major character can unite with the universe’s major character, the miracle happens without coincidence, here are the example of the universe's major characters is like dedication, discipline, consistency, care, commitment, etc. here is the fifth sign that you must be grateful for what you got; you have the clean water around your environment, it means, you don’t lack the source of clean water, if you have it, you should be grateful and you must use the water wisely because there are many remote area in the undeveloped country have no access to use the clean water because the source location of the clean water has been contaminated, here is the sixth sign that you must be grateful for what you got; you are having mental and physical wellness, this is ultimate resource for human being, if you don’t take care of it, God will take it from you, if we review a bit in several hospitals that many sick people are wishing to live normally like a healthy person but they can't regain their health because they are too late, if you are healthy now, please consume something healthier for your future, either the information, food, beverage, and your lifestyle, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.

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What you need to focus on?

 



   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “what you need to focus on?”, the main reason why i choose that topic because not everyone can master the power of focus, the root of problem why they can't focus to what they do in career because they lack of priority management skill and also their focus has been scattered into several things, so basically most people don't have intelligence problem, they just lack of being self-mastery, at this moment, i would share several tips how to manage the power of focus, hopefully it can increase your self-mastery, here is the first tip what you need to focus on; focus on your purpose, it means, you have to know about what your top daily necessity and what makes you is being waited by life's demand, life is full of uncertainty, so it would better that you put your major attention into small thing where it can increase your credibility and reputation, when you focus on something details, your energy will flow to where your focus goes and it will affect to your perception and creativity, I just to remind you that you must keep your focus grows by removing the distractions around you, such as internet, cell phone, TV, chit chat with friend, social media, etc. Here is the second tip what you need to focus on; physical strength, it means, you must keep your body healthy because it has main role to support what you do, your focus will create enormous power when your body is health, your focus will not work at maximum when you are sick, so physical strength is great asset, Here is the third tip what you need to focus on; mental wellness, it means, if you want your focus grows, you must let go of what you love and what you hate in your present moment because it will help you to diminish the mental suffering, maybe you need to meditate around 5 minutes, or you can do the spiritual activity for reviving your mood, remember; emotional content is like the navigation where it can help you to locate what you focus on, when you master your patience, you can master everything.

 

 Here is the fourth tip what you need to focus on; less stress, it means, you must know about your capacity and where your enthusiasm goes, don't let your job can make you stressed, remember this advice; if your job makes you stressed, you are in the wrong job, the right job will not make you stressed, instead, your job can reveal everything you need to promote your skill and your creativity to the outer world, you don't need to promote yourself to others, you just let your lifework will work for your future, if you work for your lifework, other people will remember your service even though they don't know your name or personality, but if you work for other people's dream, other people will remember your mistake even though you want to forget it, every human is a tool in the eye of God, don't expect for other people strength, but facilitate what other people need, that's strategy can make you less stress, Here is the fifth tip what you need to focus on; simplifying life, it means, don't try to something where your soul and your intuition isn't going there together, you just need to do what you can and forget what other people can, life would be easier and simpler when you fulfill your destiny first and then help others, here is the sixth tip what you need to focus on; your goal, the clearer your goal, the more your focus pursues it, it would better if you can classify your goal into several things, daily goal, monthly goal, yearly goal, if you can master your focus, you can block the negativity, here is the seventh tip what you need to focus on; your blessings, it means, you must appreciate what God grants something to you, such as health, creativity, family, enthusiasm, if you focus on your blessings, your blessings will open the rare opportunity for you and give you more than you deserve, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.

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