Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Living with a depressed spouse? Help your spouse to figure out how‘s good life” the main reason why I choose that topic because many couples start to blame their spouse when he/she starts depressed, if we use different perception, the problem is not what they are facing, but their ego starts to whisper “your problem lies is in your spouse, not in you”, remember; just because you are getting married with your spouse, it doesn’t mean you will get a guarantee to live happily with your spouse, before you got married, so you must find away how to be happy person first because marriage is about how to build bigger investment into character, matter and vision, marriage is not like ATM (automated Teller Machine) where you can draw happiness from your spouse at anytime, in order to know your spouse’s emotional problem, you must recognize the spouse's genre character, if your spouse is woman, you must give your attention and care to what she says to you, the reason why she does it because she wants you to be trustworthy person, but if your spouse is man, you must not give him strong advice or critic in which you hope he is willing to listen it, during building long term acquaintanceship, please don’t remind your spouse’s new mistake where she/ he wants to leave mistake behind in the past, you just need to give your service to your spouse as best as you can, e.g. the quality time, the affirmation of words, the physical touch, gift and emotional needs.
In order to live happily with someone who doesn’t know about your past, you must impersonate a new student's character where he must take risk and learn how to live side by side with someone who has different personality, do you know why? because you and your spouse don’t know about respective past story, if you just show about your pride before your spouse talks about it, your spouse will not appreciate you, your main job when your spouse has emotional issue is you need to leave your pride or past achievement and you commit to become new student to your spouse every day and learn how to cherish your spouse, if you and your spouse wants to live together without being interrupted with hurt feeling, you and your spouse need to leave ego in order to know each other like the child's curiosity to learn more about something mysterious, if you apply child's habit into your relationship, you and your spouse can grow together, happy together, sad together, build vision together and being old together, here is my recommendation; don’t try to introduce about who you are if you are not being asked by your spouse, let your spouse stays curious about you, that's how not to make your relationship is not boring, In order to know well about your spouse’s personality, you need to know what is her pain and what’s her hope, besides that, you need to explore your spouse’s vision, add some benefits to your spouse and let your spouse remembers your gift, to build strong relationship, you must create a new life story with your spouse because it can prolong your boring situation, it is very important rather than you rewrite the history with your spouse, here is the special note; woman is the master of history, if he invests something good to her, she will love him more than he imagines, whereas, man is a boring man, when she gives what man logically wants, he will buy what woman emotionally wants. I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.