• Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

Feel angry? Don’t push yourself to do something you can’t finish

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Feel angry? Don’t push yourself to do something you can’t finish”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people feel angry when what they dream doesn’t manifest into reality, if we take a look from different perception, the real problem is not coming from what people dream, but it comes from lack of preparation and lack of self-awareness to work better than what people usually spend their valuable time to work, in order to realize what people dream into reality, people’s mindset must be congruent with the law of universe because there are many areas where only can be done by the law of universe, it says “everything needs the consistency of work and the major trigger to unlock potential must be done with human's willingness at the first time”, that’s the compensation of law, besides that, people need to offer every day's contribution to the future, do you know why contribution is very important because every contribution will determine where people must go, remember; life is not talking about exchanging the accumulation of working with time, but life is talking about how to leave the contribution where it can't be swept away by the time easily, if your accumulation of working can be exchanged by time easily, you will be forced by life to work for what you aim until you die because your time is insufficient to support what you want in life, you must surrender your contribution by applying the law of nature, you need to commit for your contribution and you just let it go after you finish it, you have to ensure your contribution can’t be destroyed easily when time starts to destroy your contribution until 5 years later, it means, you need to struggle by working your contribution until 5 years, if your contribution has been done at least 5 years, then you must surrender the outcome to the law of universe.

Angry people always bring the past to the present moment

          Do you know why you must surrender the result although you have been working at it within 5 years? Because it is the law of compensation, you simply focus to what you work, when you work, you indirectly energize in what you do every day and you let the future will work for you, remember this; if you work without applying the law of universe, your physical strength will be pushed to work until you die, if you apply the law of universe into your dream, you just focus how to develop your self-esteem, masterpiece and enthusiasm all the time at least 5 years, during 5 years period of time, you have to ensure your masterpiece, self-esteem and enthusiasm are still availableafter that the law of universe will continue what you finished and you can’t interfere the process because you have given your authority to the law of universe, during waiting the process, you must not register your emotional to the result, it is totally prohibited, you must be sincerely to wait until the end result is appearing into reality, here is the important note; don’t push yourself to do something you can’t finish in short period of time, such as you work for your long term contribution more than 15 hours of working time in a day, you must ensure your small contribution can create the progress for other people who can access you, once again you need to focus on what you can do within 24 hours, during 24 hours you must focus on what you control, e.g. present behavior, present mindset, present opinion, present habit and present physical strength, you must let go what you can’t control because there is something you can’t interfere the process within the law of nature, if you appreciate your limitation, life will appreciate about your limitation, your job is now is doing more than what you are paid, remember this; if you are doing more than you are paid for it, the law of compensation is working for you because you have invested something bigger than your current limitation, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Stop being angry? Understand more about yourself and raise self-love


   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Stop being angry? Understand more about yourself and raise self-love”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many of us can't control our anger every time we can’t get what we want in reality, our desire is stronger than capacity of understanding, if we behave such thing, as impact, we are easily to blame the outer circumstance for mistake and we forget how to understand more about ourselves, I just want to remind you that anger is the part of pride feeling which is supported by arrogance, anger is the effect, not the cause, the major cause is lacking of self-worth, if we still can’t calm our anger for longer time, our fear grows and we will lack of self-worth which can build the feeling of arrogance, the key how to stop being angry is understand more about yourself and raise self-love, e.g. raise your knowledge, do more kindness than what you are paid for, kindle your productive hobby, solve other people’s problem, here is the important thing you need to remember; "don't obsess too much about something you can't own because it will create a new disaster for your inner peace, be grateful about what you love", the more you love more about yourself, the more you will do something useful for your future as well as other people's life, if you focus on what you are obsessed, you will get more suffering, if you focus to serve people well with your small contribution, you will get a blessing and your anger will resolve by itself, you don't need to know how to stop your feeling of anger, if you just need to distract your attention to something inspired which can attract your major attention

   Here is the first alternative strategy how to stop being angry is "find a natural gift through making a personal mistake or making a new experience in life where we never create before and we contribute our gift to others", here is the second strategy we can do how to stop being angry is "always staying extremely curious of doing more than what we know, sometimes curiosity can reduce the amount of anger because curiosity itself can anchor new innovative idea and logical way", the main reason why we must stay hungry about inspirational story or something really new because curiosity can change our subconscious mind pattern where it controls our habit, remember; self-love can’t be measured by having a lot of stuff, or having a lot of good relationship, self-love can be measured by doing more of kindness for your future and also caring more about other people's life, e.g. we can teach them how to fish opportunity, not to fish moneyif people are angry now because they think their accomplishment is appreciated by receiving more money, in fact, receiving money can’t make people happy and solve their core of belief, money is the tool for facilitating of what people need to buy, money will give you more happiness if you are able to buy something where money can't buy it for you, e.g. masterpiece, inner peace, enthusiasm, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 


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Temper issues? It is caused by untrained mental to adapt with uncertainty

  

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Temper issues? It is caused by untrained mental to adapt with uncertainty”, the main reason why I choose that topic because almost everyone in the world has experienced with temper issue, it is not phenomenal issue because every day we are surrounded by the power of choose, either being good or being bad person, temper usually starts to attack people's inner peace when people lack of self-love to what they do every day, we can conclude "unwilling to adapt with uncomfortable thing is the indication that people will get temper", remember; life is not designed to offer about complacency or comfortable, life is about adaptation, in order to get comfortable, we must train our mindset to adapt with something greater until we accustom to feel uncomfortable with it, that's prerequisite, unfortunately most people think life is designed to offer enjoyable, but it is totally wrong, life is like the arena where it is used to train our power of choose, if we study a lot, and endure a lot of responsibility to solve problem, we will get new strength and new hope, if we ignore to study and we reject to endure a lot of responsibility, we will prophesy poor living in the future, now my question is “do you know why people still have temper issues even though they are trained to be patient person from their religion teachings? Because what people ignore is greater than what they desire to know more about their religion teachings, the temper issue comes from lack of spiritual enlightenment and lack of self-love to themselves, here is the special note; as long as people lack of self-love, they tend to harm themselves by creating negative self-talk and they lose their enthusiasm to work with life's uncertainty and eventually they can’t survive to see a new reality.

  In order to create self-love, someone must give what he loves to others because people’s strength of character depends on what they contribute to others, unprepared mental to adapt with uncertainty comes from people’s self complacency’s zone is greater than their survival skills, we can't survive if we are surrounded by complacency and comfortable for longer period of time because it has opposed with the law of nature, we can't create more peace if we can't calm our temper, the key to reduce our temper is create more peace within ourselves and we treat ourselves better like what the nature does every day, the nature's character is always learning and adapting with new situation and new condition, if the nature stops adapting, the human's life will start extinction, starting from now, don’t try to believe with luck or guarantee which is offered by other people or workplace because every guarantee will crush your survival skill, tomorrow is always be mysterious, we must continue to work for our mission for longer period of time until our capacity will not get affected with temper’s influence suddenly, we will never know when temper starts attacking our inner peace, so we must not stop adapting with future, when stop to learn, the negativity will grow, I think the best lesson to grow our life is gaining more survival skill, e.g. reading book, do physical exercise, do traveling to new place, survival skill is more important than anything lesson at school because every teacher at school can’t provide survival skill to student, so whatever you see right now is not reality, but it is just test to know about your perception, if your perception can create enlightenment to you even though you are surrounded with unpleasant thing, you will win to fight your temper, peace comes from working with self-love, not getting a lot of money or guarantee, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Anger management psychology? Stop pushing yourself against reality

  

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Anger management psychology? Stop pushing yourself against reality”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people try to push themselves to follow what their anger wants, people use their weaknesses to let their anger blown up without considering about the side effect of anger, if we use different perception; anger is like bad habit, it is can't be discarded from our body, it is watching us and waiting our desire, what we can do to sense of anger is understanding its wants and not to follow what it wants, anger will not show up if we don’t lure with worry or uncontrolled fear about uncertainty, I understand why people really hate with uncertainty, it is caused by their greater complacency than their sense of urgency level to change what is in themselves, remember this; if there is no uncertainty, there is no meaningful preparation to welcome God's grace, uncertainty is created to measure the limit of our imperfection to welcome greater pressure, our anger is happening because our mental is not ready to welcome pressure, that's problem, starting from now, we must adapt how to survive with uncertainty and reject to believe a luck as the life guarantee because there is no guarantee which human can offer to us, we must have a sense of urgency to do something important for longer period of time, do you know why we must do it? Because it is needed to welcome a shocked life suffering in the future, if we don’t want to create a sense of urgency immediately, our life will get stuck without new change because we don’t offer a good design to the future for anticipating a shocked life suffering, remember; don't create a sudden change when your time has come in crisis because it is nor the right decision to change, besides that, your anger is waiting that moment to crush your life.

  If you can’t offer your good preparation before the future happens, as impact, you will get more suffering than your current condition, do you know why you will get more suffering than your happiness state? Because you are living casually about life’s demand, if you are making habit of it, as impact you will become the casualty of life because you prophesied it long time ago through your unproductive habit and your daily ritual, remember this; whatever you choose something now to your future’s life, time will proceed what you attempted in daily basis, whatever you don’t choose something to your future’s life, time also will proceed the unexpected moment for you, there is no place to regret or fear about your life because time will not compromise about what you feel, time only care what you decide and what you don’t decide, if you think your life will make you disappoint, so you must not push yourself against reality because you have no chance to change it anymore, all you need to do is renew your daily ritual with new lesson where your soul doesn't want to accept easily, “let the past lives in the past and do something new today as your contribution for your future”, that’s key how to create an anger management psychology, do you know the meaning of “let the past lives in the past? It means, you must be ready to face about the consequence where you don't know the process, there is no escape or backtrack for you to go back in the past moment, every day you have been given by God with the power of choice within 24 hours, that’s real opportunity, as long as you can optimize what you can offer to the future within 24 hours, tomorrow you will receive privilege to face a new change, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Control temper? Don’t litter your mind with sensational news story

  

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Control temper? Don’t litter your mind with sensational news story”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people can endure pain from their own anger, many of them just let their anger is blowing by showing their poor utterance clearly and create a destruction, I just to remind you that your body can't differentiate between right or wrong, if you express your utterance with temper, your body will believe whatever you say and your habit will materialize what your temper wants in the future, before your temper controls you, remember this philosophy, "temper is like raging fire, fire will not spread if there is no whirlwind", whirlwind is like unexpected bad effect, it means, if we deliberately continue our anger, our anger will destroy something around us and also our anger will leave painful regret in behind, here is a big issue why most people get angry easily; people consider sensational news story is good news for them, such as the information where it has been highlighted in newspaper, magazine, TV, social media, etc. those communication in printed media or published in the commercial TV station aren't designed to develop your mental, it will change your positive vibration to low vibration (negative) because bad news is good news for what journalist writes, as long as the story they write can shock people's emotion and also can increase the traffic of viewer, they keep publishing what they write, so whatever they write something in public, they don't care about what people notice, remember this advice; "the more we consume the sensational news story, the more we add the shocking behavior to our subconscious mind because the highlighted information has opposed our positive vibration in mind"the basis of mental strength is not controlling what you want and what you don’t want in your life, but how you keep calm yourself even though there is no way to deal with difficult situation, I think discarding a sensational news story is the beginning step how to control temper, even though we try so hard to avoid temper, sensational news story is always being around and watching us to do something, please stay alert about your major attention to every information around you.

    Here is what you can do if you want to control temper is “love what you have recently before life teaches you to love what you lost”, the reason why you need to do this strategy because it will help you to create new ritual which can attract upcoming blessing from God, remember; your ritual and your habit are the basic requirement to change what you feel and what you think, if you feel blessed with what you own, your life will not worry about what you don’t have because you feel blessed with what you already ownbeware of what we express because every word from mouth is trying to lead us to prophesy what we are going to get in the future, besides that temper is always magnifying our negative vibration all the time, in order to reduce the pain of temper, we must not consider our time will be in ours, if we consider our time like the material, we will always worry every time we don’t get what we want in life, the best cure to stop worry is don't try to count your time based on your fact, but how you enjoy your 24 hours of life journey as if your actions were not blocked with everything in life, your job is doing something within 24 hours, not thinking about your age which is leaving you, your best life moment is what you decide now, not yesterday or later, if we look at reality, not all people love what they have because their mindset has been fueled with mind debilitating information, e.g. bad influence, newspaper, media, hoax, TV commercial, etc. Here is very important note; if people don’t care about their mental development, life will put them in the jail of obsession until they can’t go anywhere, eventually life will let people to suffer about what they can't possess, if we love to our life, we have to ensure our contribution can provide a help to beloved people around us. e.g. we inspire people with what their soul needs, in order to feel happy, we must let go what we desire most and let the universe continues our work, remember; every desire has own weight, we must let it go after we have created, if we don't do that, our mental will get burdened with our desire and it will crush our mind health, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Understanding anger? You need to show fair to yourself

  

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Understanding anger? You need to show fair to yourself”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people don’t want to understand what their anger wants, people tend to avoid what makes themselves to be angry and they still don't know how to disband their anger, the root of problem why not many people unleash their anger easily because they magnify it with a sense of pride and enthusiasm, people consider anger is part of releasing bad emotion for getting peace, in fact, releasing anger without having strong reason will create more damage to what people perceive, if we use different perception, anger can’t be resolved if we just sit down and do nothing, we need to make a move to break the anger's pattern in mind, e.g. we create a strong distraction to disband our focus to angerdo you know why I say such thing because a sense of anger can motivate people to do something excited in the wrong way, if we think our anger can help us to release our evil emotion, why would many people have been jailed for their anger? "evil emotion leads human to being fearful and greedy", So we must think twice again if we want to get angry, because there are many bad consequences we will get if we let our anger is blowing up, in order to understand anger, we must show fair to ourselves, it means, we need to understand more about what we desire, what we fear and what we are pushing against with, if we love something excited, we must be ready to be hated with something we hate, such as new challenge, uncertainty and adversityif we obsess something, we have to beware about the consequence we will get in the future because it is very difficult for us to control when our mind is really obsessed about what we obsessed, while our mental development isn't ready to face the worst case that we never expect, the strongest mental indication for person; he is always ready at any time with the consequence he receives from life without complaint.

  If you just let your anger is appearing easily to reality, your subconscious mind will say to your conscious mind, “my destiny is destroying your hope through your anger and I will crush your inner peace immediately”, starting from today, you have to practice your mental by doing something extraordinary piece by piece, e.g. you hone your skill before you let yourself being pursued by your dream, during building your mental, please don’t let your anger is appearing easily because it can crush your positive vibration, before your anger is blowing up, you need to distract yourself to something interested to you, maybe you develop your hobby, innovate your project, and leave your contribution, remember this; don't ever think anger will solve your problem, instead it will burden your peace in mind, if you think getting angry is easy to do, you have to distract yourself to do something heavier, e.g. you punish yourself with discipline and the consistency of work, here is the additional note; letting out your anger in reality is like unleashing the beast from the cage, so if you unleash the beast in front of you without preparation, you will get hurt severely, your anger will not stop from its operation until you know how to create peace by doing something cool, e.g. you pray to God for stopping your anger, or you wash your face with cool water, or you go sleep, that’s it, here is what you can do if you want to understand your anger for longer time is don’t let your anger knowing what makes you hate, maybe you can change your self-talk from negative to positive, for example; if I let my anger is appearing, I ask myself "what kind of destruction I created after I got angry?",  here is the good news; if you can balance your anger with logical question, your anger will lose its power because anger dislikes with logical question, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Alcohol and anger? Don’t drink alcohol if you want to calm your anger

  

  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “alcohol and anger? Don’t drink alcohol if you want to calm your anger”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people start drinking alcohol every time they meet serious problem, they consider alcohol can help them to forget about problem, but in fact they don’t realize the side effect of alcohol can make them addicted until they don’t know how to stop it, if we use different perception, “anger is not caused by problem, instead alcohol has the big trigger to evoke human’s emotional to be unstable”, if we look at reality, many people are making of habit to drink alcohol even though they are not angry, this habit is really poor, do you know why I say such thing because this habit pattern will injure the human’s mental health for longer period of time and alcohol drinking habit will not be needed by every human’s soul, if people love about their own life, they will not kill their future by drinking alcohol because it will create the unstable emotional development as well as it can damage the nerve, here is the note; anger is not caused by insurmountable problem, it is caused by comfort feeling, unprepared mental growth and unwilling to adapt with new demand of life.

 If life is easy, we are not supposed to be sent to earth, we came from nothing to something existed because there is mission where it needs human's contribution, it means, we are stronger than problem where it had been set 50.000 years ago before God created the heaven and earth, the problem is not designed to make people confused, it is designed to amplify our self-awareness, improve our skill set and increase our mental intelligence, starting from now, we must optimize our mental intelligence to see unexpected problem, not to practice our mental how to gain more pleasure, here is what most people don't understand: mental intelligence will work if it has given a problem, it will not work if it has been used for getting more pleasure, the less often we optimize mental intelligence to face problem, the less chance we create self confidence, remember this note; the more pleasure we get, the more pressure we get, that’s consequence once the pleasure is gone, the more often we embrace problem as godsend, the more we can control pleasure, finally we still can survive even though the pleasure is gone, pressure is the guarantee to unlock new potential within us, whereas pleasure is like the wind, it can be tasted and then it becomes fantasy, alcohol is not designed to strengthen human potential, instead it can damage the human's mental health for long period of time, in order to calm anger, you just need to enrich your knowledge and go to sleep, that's it, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Tired and depressed? Backtrack and ponder what you finish

  

  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Tired and depressed? Backtrack and ponder what you finish”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people start complaining every time the result doesn't match with their own hope, if we use different perception, “it doesn't matter if your hope and result doesn't match each other, what does matter is you have created for kindness and you leave contribution for the future", do you know why I say such thing because our duty as human is not creating result, but how to ensure our major focus and our intention will work together for making contribution, remember; uncontrolled area lives in God's authority, whereas, controlled area lies in your hands, if you insist to work for interfering God's authority, you will get tired and depressed, so let God works with you and you ask Him for guidance, there is nobody can crush your life except you allow your poor mindset to happens”, if you feel tired and depressed, don’t continue your desire to proceed because it may hurt your positive vibration and harm your mental health, in order to attract the abundance of life, you must not allow yourself stressing out because it will blockade in what you do in daily activity, here is what most people don’t understand; they don’t appreciate the learning process and they don't enjoy what they do because they consider learning process is wasting time, so they want to skip the process in order to get the result from what they workno wonder many people are tired and depressed because they feel overwhelmed with the end result, remember the rule "just because you are doing a lot more, it doesn't mean you are getting a lot more done" it means, you must appreciate time to grow what you work, you will never enjoy your work if you insist time to work what you invest into it, so starting from now, don't let yourself overwhelmed with the end result, let the end result wants you and obsess about your work.

 If people want to cure their mental issue, they must not destroy self-image about what they do every day and not to get themselves overwhelmed with the end result, "please prepare yourself for the best and be ready for facing the worst"don’t let our own opinion will drown our hope in the future, so we must ponder to what we finish whether it can improve our mindset or not if we stop learning and stop innovating for our mindset, as impact, we will get a mental pain and suffering because we don’t fulfill the consequence to what we choose from the first position we startedstarting from now, we must be willing to take responsibility to what we choose as long as we are still alive, even though the journey is taking longer period of time than we predict, we must learn how to enjoy the learning process and feel optimistic until we get the end result, if there is problem incurring to us, we must not let it goes away before we deal with it, do you know why? because Almighty God has sent His best package to us, so the package will not be sent to the wrong addressee nor it will be exchanged with other people’s authority, we must backtrack and ponder about God’s package, maybe there is new lesson where He wants us to learn it, do you know why we are being treated by God to love something even if we don’t think it is good? Because there is something big in the future needs our service, that’s God’s plan, remember; everybody’s future lies in God’s plan, our duty is staying curious about God’s package and we ask His guidance to unlock it, unfortunately many of us can’t unwrap God’s plan because we are too obsessed with something we can’t control, if we interfere in the territory of God’s authority, we will be forced to feel stress, anxiety and depression, Almighty God doesn't want us to get stressing out, He only wants us to learn, innovate and contribute what we have to others, not to pursue what we can't control, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Not showering depression? So keep showering yourself with gratitude

  


  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Not showering depression? So keep showering yourself with gratitude” the main reason  why I choose that topic because not many people are willingly to express their gratitude for what they receive from God, the root of problem why people don’t show their gratitude feeling because their depression state about what they obsessed about the past moment is bigger than their sense of gratitude feeling now, besides that, the root of problem why people depressed easily because they don’t practice their vision to see something bigger than what they usually see ordinarily, remember this; if we don’t practice what we see now, our attention will be directed into what we don’t deserve it, e.g. our attention will be surrounded by negative information and toxic friends, the wise word says “gratitude and complaint can’t reside in one place at one time”, if we don’t shower ourselves with gratitude feeling, our attention will look for negative thing which may treat us bad and feel unpleasant, at this moment let me share how to keep showering yourself with gratitude, here is the first thing you can do to attract positive energy and minimize your depression state is appreciate what you can receive and don’t hate what you already receive, the main reason why you practice that behavior because you will never know what kind of gift that you receive from God through somebody whom already met you, you just need to practice your trust to God, that's faith.
  


  Do you know why you must trust to God because God knows your ability more than yourself, when you hate what you already receive, you abandon your own gift, please think it twice, you will not receive the gift if God has planned something big for you, If you think your depression is caused by lack of money, it is not true, do you know why I say such thing because money is just amplification to give reflection to yourself, money will not make you good or bad, money will not make you rich or poor, money is just tool where it can amplify your personality and your identity, if you are generous now, once you become rich, you will become very generous person, if you commit to do the evil thing with money, sum of money you receive will multiple your bad behavior and also money will treat you bad, here is the second thing you can do to attract positive energy and minimize your depression state is raise your awareness through collecting new lesson, either personal mistake or unknown people's experience, from that strategy, we must stay aware that everybody has different time, different experience, different talent and different culture, so we must commit to learn piece by piece from other people’s experience in order to enrich our life experience, if we consume more often enlightenment information than bad influence, as impact, our bad habit will be renewed with new good habit and it will affect to our future wisdom, luck and our future mindset, if our perception has changed, our life will change as well, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Best antidepressant for elderly? Don’t consume negativity more than enlightenment

  

  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Best antidepressant for elderly? Don’t consume negativity more than enlightenment”, the main reason why I choose that topic because most of us consider thinking negatively is easier than thinking positively, we are educated at school not to think, we are educated at school to memorize the stuff, that's beginning story why we feel difficult to awake our perspective idea to clear our mind from the depression state, the root of problem why we are easily to consume negative information because we lack of enlightenment, life is like a clay, whatever we insist to do, it will become our mindset and what we repeatedly do will become reality, the future we see is projecting what we will become, if we think antidepressant is the best solution to heal depression, our habit will form our future and our habit will form our mind to consume antidepressant until we can’t recognize between problem or godsend, in order to avoid antidepressant addiction, we must not think like 99% people, we may hear about the idiom “every cloud has a silver lining”, it means, every problem has been measured by God to be solved by human, whatever we think, there is no right or wrong from what we think, only conviction can go wrong, sometimes we consider problem can kill our life, in fact, only our poor mindset which can poison our intention and attention at the same time, we should be thankful if we can get problem because not every day we can take new problem, in order to get enlightenment, we must embrace problem and try to adapt with it, if we avoid problem, we are stayed away from enlightenment, that’s make sense.

  The best medicine for reducing depression state for elderly is make the depression state loses its power by delaying the growing process, e.g. we start to distract our attention to something attractive, if we can proceed that, we can immobilize the depression growing process, remember; we will never be able to avoid negativity because we are surrounded by positive and negative energy, we can't avoid a sense of fear because it has positive side if we can use it properly, now imagine if we don't have any fear at all, we will not alert about what we choose because we don't care about more risk and dangerous journey, it could make the worse situation than ever, when we live in this world, we almost can’t avoid negativity because we are surrounded by negative energy and positive energy, our duty is not to blame where negativity comes from, but how we manage our focus and attention to accomplish something enlightened, remember; we are living in the world to educate our mindset to be grown up, not to satisfy our mindset with pleasure and comfort, if we let ourselves vulnerable from pleasure and comfort, as impact, we always hate reality if it doesn't show something we love, life is not about love and hate, life is about understanding about who you are and what you are prophesying, if we don’t intend to direct our focus to find something enlightened, our mind will look for negativity instantly, doing good deeds is difficult to do, but we must insist ourselves to do good deeds in order to reduce the bad effect from negativity, all we need to do is not diminishing negativity, but we understand the power of negative energy which surrounds us every dayif we create the balance between negativity and enlightenment, we will get inner peace, we don’t need to side which positive energy and negative energy is good, if we consume negative information more often than enlightenment information, we get the depression state, but if we consume positive information more often than engaging with new problem, we will get afraid to try something really new from life, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Messy house depression ? Treat yourself like cleaning your house

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Messy house depression? Treat yourself like cleaning your house”, the main reason why I choose that topic many people show their depression every time they got insurmountable problem, many people consider problem is like the dirt, but if we look at different perception, "problem will make us staying awake with new reality which has been created by what we repeatedly do every day", so our job is not treating ourselves like a haunted house where it offers messy condition, our job is only cleaning the house as if we were expecting new guest every day, remember this philosophy; our mindset is like the house interior, whatever happens inside the house’s condition, it is our responsibility, if we are not willing to clean our house interior with new lesson, new enlightenment, new attempted failure, as impact, we let our house will be littered by other people’s influence undoubtedly, in order to keep cleaning our mind from bad influence, we must have a vision to envision what we are going to do in certain way and visualize what we are going to accomplish in the future, if we don’t have such clear mission, our mind will end up like a messy house with unguarded.

  Starting from now, don’t ever regret if life will not do as you expect because you don’t treat your mind like the way you treat your house, that’s important, if you don’t want to get a mess in the house, you must dare to challenge yourself to keep cleaning the house even if there is no upcoming guest, if you keep cleaning your house, your mind will be open and clear as you can see into fresh water, if your mind as clean as your house, even though you are getting new problem, your mind will not focus on the situation where it is trapping your mind, instead, your mind starts finding new solution and new enlightenment, remember this philosophy; your house is like your whole life, if you don’t treat your house is clean and tidy, your life will be unclear and untidy, if you don’t want to be bored with your life, you must create a vision where it can bring you to the new life where you can do something excited or you accomplish something enlightened, if you renew your life with big mission, your faith will grow up as well, if your faith isn’t grown and isn’t renewed with big mission, your imagination will not be upgraded to envision something bigger than your personal problem, here is the bad news; if your imagination quality is lower than your big desire, your imagination will start to envision about negativity, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Depression survivor? Don’t be so hard on yourself

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Depression survivor? Don’t be so hard on yourself”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people pretend to be depression survivor every time what they expect doesn’t turn into reality, the root of problem why people get the depression state because they try so hard on themselves to pursue what their limitation can't serve themselves until they don’t care anymore about the risk which may trouble their own limitation, I don't blame if you show your working hard on your dream, what I don’t recommend is "you do something harder than their own limitation until you don't care about your sleeping time, eating time and relaxing time"what I recommend is you must know your goal setting, know your weaknesses, know your inner strength and recognize when your potential acumen can do what other people can't do for yourself, if we look at reality, many people don't really love about what they work because they are too complacent with what they do, if people don’t know their limitation, they always prophesy themselves to become depression survivor all the time, it is not good for long term  because it will decrease people’s endurance level, let me share to you about the nature philosophy, every plant has time to grow their specific requirement secretly, the growing process can’t be delayed and it can’t be accelerated, the growing process will run in the perfect time, nobody will be able to interrupt it, this philosophy can be applied in human's career, what people can do right now is not pushing the time to accelerate what people do, but how people invest their best effort and habits every day to stay congruent with the natural growing process, that’s makes a sense, we can conclude that “there is no instant result to create the magnificent result, we must appreciate to what life does something for us”, that’s human top limitation.

 The best effort we can do right now is learning the process, trust the process, stay in faith with vision and appreciating what life can do for us, remember; we can't escape from what we start because we already gave the assignment to life for proceeding our expectation in the future, if you have leisure time to learn something useful today, that’s God gift you must appreciate it, do you know why I called it God’s gift, because not many people have spent their time to learn more, most of them pursue their limitation until they forget how to proceed what they work in the futureplease don't be controlled by your career, you must know how to stop, how to innovate with your own creativity, how to adapt with something terrified, I don’t blame if people show their working hard to what they do for career, but what I regret is people don’t know how to stop their own pursuit until they have been stopped by their pension time, that’s problem, in order to remove depression state from our mind, we must know when we stop our unrealistic expectation and when we continue our work of mission in the future, we have to ensure that we work between what we can control, what we can't control and what we demand ourselves to innovate something different for our mindset, remember this; what we can do as human is we work to improve and enhance our mindset, not to work for skillset and pleasure, here is the good news; if you work with happiness state and not so hard for yourself, your body will forget your pain and suffering, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Depression game? You need to change the game plan until it gives you a new enlightenment

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Depression game? You need to change the game plan until it gives you a new enlightenment”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people don’t really love about the game they are playing with, the reason why people hate about their game because their expectation doesn’t match with the game’s demand, if people keep pushing themselves to pursue something they hate, as impact, they will live into depression game and they will never escape from reality they have set, before the game plan turns into reality, people must innovate their game plan until they find enlightenment within what they do, what I view the world now is many people prefer to get paid cheaper than they take new responsibility by doing something more than what they are paid, remember this advice; life is not talking about how much price you will get from your work, what matter most is you will dare to challenge yourself to take new responsibility and you keep innovating your creativity until it becomes the ultimate masterpiece for people problem’s solution, that’s good purpose, here is the bad news; if we always think about how much price we will get from our work, as impact, our attention and intention will not grow up to our expectation because we limit ourselves by receiving the price from what we do.

  Starting from now, we must know what kind of game we always do in every day, if we just work without having big purpose, we will never get promotion from what we do because our purpose will determine the benefit we will get in the future, here is what most people don’t understand; “type of purpose will determine how much benefit they will get from it”, the more we increase our good purpose for others, the more we get benefit from it, the less we create good purpose for others, the less benefit we will get from it, that’s mindset we need to ponder, if people just play the game for earning money only, their action will never exceed from their expectation because sum of money they got every payday is going to crush their higher expectation, that's depression game, in order to stop playing the depression game, we must change the game plan by doing what we insist to do without payment first, that's requirement, if we are used to work by innovating our work ethic, creativity, manner, integrity, eventually it will become the greatest asset for our promotion, unfortunately most people don’t intend to invest something good for themselves first, what they do is paying other people’s benefit first rather than paying themselves as priority task, the word “pay ourselves first” means, we need to study more and innovate more before we will get paid for what we invest for other people’s needs, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Stop being depressed? Don’t do what you hate, but love the process from your growing self

  

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Stop being depressed? Don’t do what you hate, but love the process from your growing self”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people can stop their attention to what makes them depressed, we all know that many things can go as we haven’t planned well because life changes so fast and unpredictable, it is very difficult to turn our expectation into reality because life doesn’t go as what we think and what we love, here what I believe; life really goes to what I deserve to get, if someone wants to become a doctor or lawyer or maybe another profession, he must be ready with all the consequences before he enters with his game, if he isn’t interested with everything he gets in his game, he will be surrounded by depression game, here is the note; I don't recommend you to do something you really hate if you want to build good career, what I recommend is do something that you are interested with learning process, what you need to do is not putting your attention to the situation where it traps your mind into difficult thing, but what you need to do is how to put your attention to the purpose you create into the long haul game, remember; once you enter to the game you have chosen, you must finish it and you go through it piece by piece until you complete the game, don’t ever think that what you dislike about the consequence is bad for you, every game in life is not designed to give you pleasure, it gives you self-awareness, that’s the real point, if you don’t like with the game you have chosen, you must change your perception and change the way you reason about it, if you don’t challenge yourself to play the game you have chosen, you will be forced to play another game where it gives you so much pressure and suffering, that's game of life.

  You have been given by God with the power of choose every single day, you can’t escape from your choice because every choice you create is going to direct to what God plans for youyou must take the journey even though you can't make it better, please don’t be hater about what God does for you because everything He plans for you is suitable for your strength, you just need to calm your emotion and enjoy the show where God envisions something for you through your imagination until the game you have played is finished, if you quit before the game is finished, you will get more depression and you will regret for everything you leave, God has created the game which it is called a life and it is created to test your capability and test your endurance, if you don’t feel like living in the game plan, at least you create the game plan as you commit with it, sometimes the first beginning at the game is always irritating you, but that's adaptation, you will never know what God plans for you until you accept the gift from Him through your potential and enthusiasm, as long as you feel enthusiastic with what God grants you, you must continue your game with the strong faith, during the middle of the game, you will meet with something that can make you confused, but once again please don’t hate what God chooses for you because He knows you well more than you know about yourself, all you need to do is love the process by taking lesson you want to pick, here is the last note; if you don’t like with the game of life, please don’t try to grab all lessons where it takes up your attention and energy, you just need to pick one or two lesson you are interested most and you create the contribution for yourself as well as for others, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Feel sad for no reason? Use your perception to create new reality

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Feel sad for no reason? Use your perception to create new reality”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people feel sad for no reason, they show their sadness every time they have  met with miserable moment, in fact every moment in life is neutral, it means, there is no sadness and there is no joy, "what people perceive, it will turn into their reality", if we use different perception, every disaster in life is not created to make people happy, but it is designed to test their mental endurance, remember; every problem in life is like washing machine, it will twist us, it will spin us, it will knock us around, but in the end, problem will make us cleaner, brighter and better, everything in this life needs to be tested because there is no permanent situation and there is no perfect condition, such today, before we are living today, tomorrow moment has been tested by God before it will be sent to human, God will not give something today before it was tested first, if the tomorrow moment hasn’t been tested yet by God, it will not be sent to human's capacity, we will never find the perfect moment to satisfy us today because life is not kind of perfect place, life is bodybuilding arena where it is designed to strengthen human’s ability to survive and not to make them happy, if we want to be happy, we must know what is our strength and how we can find our gift to contribute to others.

  Starting from now, please don't expect kindness from others because every human has own gift, If you want to get respect from other people, you need to respect to what you do for yourself, if you feel sad for no reason, other people will treat you as the way you treat yourself, you need to create new perception about what you do in daily, if you don’t like what you do, it is caused by your perception view about life is bad, sadness can be exchanged with happiness if you allow the acceptance process of what God grants you, please train your mind to create your perception towards life because it will determine your qualification of belief and it can be formed into two, it will empower you or it will hinder you, don’t ever train your mind to create habitual negative self-talk even if it is joke because your body can’t differentiate between wrong or right, if you focus on what makes you difference among majority of people whose narrow minded mindset, you will not receive the same perception like what majority of people have, starting from now, you must learn how to appreciate about what makes you are living today, don’t hate about what you can’t change because whatever you receive based on what you invest into your life, you must raise your own standard to unlock your potential and lock your unnecessary bad feeling, if you love about yourself, you will not do something for fulfilling satisfaction, instead, you will work for God's plan, if you consider sadness is suited to you, you would better to stop what you are crying for because it will not return what's already left you, you would better to ponder what you can’t offer for what’s leaving you rather than you show your sadness for what’s leaving you, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Depression and marriage? you need to renew your visualization about the marriage law

 

 Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Depression and marriage? you need to renew your visualization for new acceptance”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people can find their own mistakes after they are defending their marriage status for longer period of time, most people think marriage is solution for reducing depression, in fact, marriage is the part of another level of self-reflection to the new situation they are getting at together, the root of problem why people can't reduce their depression although they already married because they just expect their spouse's power can heal emotional issue, in fact, marriage is kind of mirror, the more you point at something you know, the more you don't know about yourself, the less you know about yourself, the more you learn something different about you, remember; marriage is the part of personality's mirror, it means, if person A finds the conformity with person B, we can conclude that person A has seen his own personality into the person B's personality, so depression is not part of condition where it is happening accidentally, it is created by human’s inability to control their high expectation degree, I just want to remind you that if you pursue something you can't control, the more you get blindness from what you do in daily basis, in order to create harmony in marriage, you must be ready to love your spouse's weaknesses before you accept the whole personality from your spouse, the purpose of marriage is train our faith to God for the direction He gives to someone who will live with us and train our mind to glorify God's destiny.

 Before someone decides to marry someone he loves so much, he must be ready with the consequence where he will be responsible for what he choosessomeone must know his own personality before his spouse will enter it, if we look at reality, many people don't recognize their personality because they just focus on what they see outside, not what they perceive about their personality, don't ever consider peace lies into the marriage status, if you can't create peace before you get married, your spouse will not create peace for you in marriage, as long as someone can't renew his visualization for new acceptance of his spouse's imperfection, he will get nothing from his marriageif you think the marriage should offer happiness, you should invest yourself as much as you can with the new version of your vision before you can make your spouse is happier, remember; life and marriage is neutral, both can’t give you what makes you happy and both can't give you with what makes you depressed, both only offers you the new journey where you will live together with your own life, if you consider marriage will give you happiness, you must be ready to accept unexpected moment which may disappoint you later, if you feel depressed because of marriage, it is not caused by the spouse’s weakness, but you bring your past story with bad perception to the marriage I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Dealing with someone with depression? You just need to distract their pain with good self-image

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Dealing with someone with depression? You just need to distract their pain with good self-image”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people feel hurt every time they are surrounded by depressed people, many people worry about what depressed people do in every single day because it may affect to the normal people’s habit, I have ever shared to another article that the pain of depression is caused by the focus misuse to the people's limitation and weaknesses, if we go deep into problem which approaches to depressed people; they don’t lack of intelligence or they don’t lack of the capacity to work more, they just don’t know how to optimize their resourcefulness and don't know how to create good vibes for creating good self-image, remember this; the resourcefulness is the ultimate resource among other resources where human have. e.g. passion, calm, sincerity, decisiveness, integrity, determination, etc. Having resourcefulness can build the intuition which can attract the enlightenment from Almighty God's wisdom, here is the bad news; if we don’t know how to build good self-image, other people will offer bad self-image to our imagination, in order to deal with someone with depression, we need to offer our good self-image to someone who never use his self-image to create better visualization, I just want remind you that “depressed people only visualize about what they disbelieve it and they repeat the poor self-image about what they disbelieve until it becomes reality”, in order to break someone's poor self-image whom live with us, we must love about our self-image first and focus how to develop our vision and mission into reality.


  I know it is not easy to create a good role model for someone else because everybody has different perception, different attitude, different hobby, different standard of acceptance, different capacity, if you want to advise someone who lives with you, all you need to do is "giving more about your life value and expecting less about advantage you will receive", if you give more than what you need, you will create the new level of acceptance from God, if you focus to receive something more from other people, you will create the new degree of limitation, not abundant of receiving what your soul needs, here is another strategy how to deal with someone with depression; you raise your own standard and don't compete with other people's depression game, if your level of imagination is higher than most people’s, other people will learn from you and you will become a good role model for them, remember; your level of imagination comes from your steadily increasing faith and the power of faith comes from your achievement where you have worked for it, starting from today, if you want to deal with someone with depression, “don’t be the person who always needs someone, but be someone a person needs”, if you want to give your emotional healing power to depressed people; focus on how to provide abundance of others, and you create new path of faith where other people don't have, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  

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