• Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

Signs of depression in men? They aren’t ready to accept the consequence

  

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Signs of depression in men? They aren’t ready to accept the consequence”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many men aren't ready to accept any consequence from what they choose, the root of problem why people aren't ready to accept the consequence because what they think mostly is profit only, the sign of depression will appear when people think about profit and avoid to learn deeply about the consequence, if you think consequence is a lot more important than profit, you must learn a lot about the consequence till you will get wiser to receive a result even though you dislike it, the reason why you must learn the consequence because it will help you to avoid the pain of disappointment in the future, the pain of depression is always started from the pain of disappointment about reality, remember; human being is unlike a robotic machine, human is kind of dynamic and adaptive creature, when life changes, you must know how to adapt with it before life insists you to change, if you want to create good life in your career, don't think about how much profit you can get from there, but you must think about how much the risk tolerance you can take from there, that's wise decision you need to take, good life is happening to you if your strength of character can work together with the risk you take, as long as the risk you face can't be matched with your personality, you will get depression, here is my opinion; don’t attach your happiness to the result, if you keep doing that, you will never have the moment of happiness in what you do in process, your happiness will happen if you accept the consequence and you are willing to take it, if you really want to be happy person, you must tie yourself to the goal which can increase your esteem, not tie yourself to the good stuff or people.


  I don’t blame you when you want to pursue your career by using focus, drive and time, but if you aren’t willing to accept the consequence from what you work, you will get depression even though you love with your job, sometimes what you love to do in your work having other side of what you dislike, so you must be ready for it, at this moment I will share to you about several signs of depression and how to solve it, here is the first sign of depression you will get if you apply this habit; you use money to buy your instant satisfaction more than you spend the money for fulfilling your basic daily necessity, this is lifestyle which can make people are being broke, here is the solution you need to do; save the money first and spend what it is left, here is the second sign of depression you will get if you apply this habit; you invest less knowledge and avoid the consequence, the reason why this kind of habit can get you depressed because this habit will influence you to be reckless person, here is the solution you need to do; you invest more knowledge and don't avoid the risk, here is the third sign of depression you will get if you apply this habit; you want to get an easy thing to do, not willing to take new challenge in your job, the reason why easy job can give you depression because easy job offers low esteem, here is the solution you need to do; take challenge in your job and make it as habit, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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Feeling low? You just need to raise your esteem

 

  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Feeling low? You just need to raise your esteem”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people are ready to accept the consequence when a new issue is coming up to their reality, the root of problem why people often feel low because they don't have a high purpose to pursue in their life, instead they just spend their major time to pursue a low purpose and short term goal, e.g. money and instant gratification, remember; person who follows instant gratification only, his life will never grow because his capacity is limited by what he pursues, in order to avoid feeling low, person must demand themselves to raise his own standard, so that he will commit to upgrade his skills, his vision and his personality until his esteem is soaring higher than his comfort zone, starting from today, treat yourself as the best investment you give before you give something better to others, if you don’t do that, you always feel low because your capacity has fixated to what you own in the past, you will never grow your capacity until you change what you perceive, feeling low is not part from the standard of modesty, it is the standard of poverty, do you know why I say such thing?, Because feeling low always influences someone to do something easier in daily basis, if someone does something easier because he doesn't have any hard hopes to fight for. 

  Most people think feeling low is caused by the pain of adversity, it is not true, feeling low is caused by doing something easier and do uninspiring thing, if you want to break of chain from the feeling low, you aren't allowed to do something easier without having a better target, the first thing you need to do if you want to improve your esteem; you need to have a long term target, the more you focus on your long term target, the more you strengthen your power of focus, eventually you will be able to change your perception, "if your perception is changing, your reality will follow what you visualize"your esteem usually determine what you give to others, if your esteem is high, you will change your standard of giving, you can't give something better to others until you change your personality, maybe you will ask me, "why we must change our personality first because Almighty God does something for us based on what we invest in ourselves", if your service is urgently needed because you have high esteem to do something where most people don't do, here is the universal law; the more you give what you love, the more you open within yourself the space to receive more and you create the space of abundance to produce more blessing than you imagine, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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Depression treatment? Doing something progressively

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Depression treatment? Doing something progressively”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people can adapt well with new situation which happens unexpected, most people start complaining when they see the actual situation is lowering than their own standard of opinion, so it will create inequality of social community, if we observe deeply about this case, the main problem why people’s life gets stuck in the same journey because people don’t take responsibility to do more than they can receive, in order to create life's balance; we must give what we love most to many people before we receive a feedback from other people, if we just expect something more to people and we give something less to people, as impact, we will create inequitable distribution of wealth, remember this philosophy; "your wealth is like water and oxygen which lives side by side within human's life", if you look at water and oxygen within yourself, can you count how much value you get from water and oxygen? I am sure you can't pay it with your money because it is priceless, in the real life, you can distribute your wealth to others through giving your troubleshooting skill to life's problemthe more you distribute your wealth to people's lives, the more you receive more than you deservedon’t count your wealth based on the money you get from what you work, but measure your wealth based on what you distribute to as many as people, if you violate that law, you will get depression life and uninspiring journey.


  Here is the first strategy you need to do if you don’t want being pursued by depression; don’t treat your wealth as good servant who can serve you as you wish, but treat your wealth as an asset which can be used to fulfill what most people need or what most people hope, if we use our wealth for self-satisfaction only, we will get depression because we try to swallow something bigger than our limitation, so we can conclude that the more we give our wealth to others, the more we get something bigger than we usually receive, that's the most accurate meaning of wealth, here is the additional note; the reason why greedy person always becomes poor and depressed even though he has the material wealth because he is trying to use his wealth to fulfill self-satisfaction, starting from now, "don't use your wealth for fulfilling self-satisfaction, but use it for reanimating other people's hope"the reason why you need to treat your wealth as an asset because it can be used to detect new problem which can bother you in the future, remember; the biggest potential will be meaningful if it is having ability to detect new problem in other people's life, if your potential can't be used to detect new problem, your potential's strength will be decreased by itself because time will crush your potentialhere is the second strategy you need to do if you don’t want being pursued by depression; you must create a progress in your daily activity, it means, you will always find a new way how to create progress by doing something you never try before, if you create a progress in your life, you will not get depression because your capacity is always improving, remember this philosophy; “life only gives you what you deserve and life will not give what you need or what you want”, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.     

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Winter depression? Don’t focus on winter circumstance

  

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Winter depression? Don’t focus on winter circumstance”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people are aware how to do something in winter, the majority of people are doing something unproductive in winter because they think winter has nothing interesting to offer, if we use different perception about this case; winter is the best place to contemplate what people had done after harvesting the profit in autumn, besides that, winter is offering the special moment to people who want to upgrade expertise, promote personal branding and improve strength of character, unfortunately most people don't do that in winter, so when spring has come to people, many opportunity can’t be collected by people's ability because they have lost their good momentum when they are staying in winter, remember this; every season has different purpose for human basic necessity and every season has different characteristic, if people don’t use the golden time in winter wisely, they don’t have any opportunity to grow their fortune into spring because spring is not the right time to grow human’s fortune, instead, spring is the right time to hunt opportunity and solve as much as problem.

 In my opinion; winter is the best place to do self-reflection and unlearn what people had done in the past, if you see people around you why they get winter depression because they aren’t willing to find something useful within winter, remember this; lack of using self-potential can bring worse situation to people's fate, so they must do something to increase self-esteem by making new achievement, please don't rest too long in the winter because time always counts what we do and time always counts what we don't do, "if there is no upgrading in achievement, there is no upgrading in self-promotion", if you see people who get depressed in the winter because they only focus about problem they can't detect in winter circumstance, in order to live happy in winter, we must know how to detect the problem as much as we can, as long as we can't detect our problem, we are doing something worthless in winter, people should alert that life always counts what they are good at and what they aren't good at, if they just focus on what they aren't good at, they will never realize what they can do in their inner strength, starting from now, don't ever think how to escape from winter season by doing less and expecting more, here is the key how to escape from winter depression; we value our own time by prioritizing what matters for facing spring season, here is the bad news; if we don’t value our time by preparing our expertise in winter, we will lose self-potential, as impact, we can't hunt opportunity and eventually we can't create own legacy, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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Social media and depression? Stop seeking approval from others

 

  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Social media and depression? Stop seeking approval from others”, the reason why I choose that topic because many people worry when they have to disconnect from people who join in social media, if you ask me why people don't want to disconnect from social media because they worry to get a negative opinion or rumor from other people in social media, that’s real issue where most people have, remember; social media is a tool which can be used to form people’s habit and promote our personality, please be wise to use it, people who can’t use social media for better purpose, as result, they will promote their bad reputation to social media, this is dangerous decision if we let ourselves to do that, we must beware when we post something in social media because it represents self-image, if we don't care about self-image, as impact, other people will put new image to our persona which may incompatible to our standard, remember; people who feel depression in social media because they just wait approval from their social circle, starting from now; don’t wait other people’s approval when we want to share something, if we always wait other people's approval to award what we do, as impact, we will put ourselves into other people’s image and eventually we will never find our uniqueness and transparency.

  
  Most people use social media to express what they want without promoting their high purpose, if people just promote their status or post into social media for making self-centeredness, they will always treat themselves like a mediocre person, please don’t use social media for getting pleasure because social media is not designed to make us happy, the purpose of social media is promoting one's portfolio, if we just share something unimportant or worthless thing in social media, other people will use our weakness to against us, if we want to get good reputation from social media, we shouldn't post something where it can attract negative opinion from public people or we shouldn't post what we don’t know about the word we have written down in social media, here is my opinion; please use social media to share something where it can increase people's curiosity to study more about your feasible idea, remember; social media represents your inner world, if you can’t salvage your inner world, other people will mess up your small world, finally you will get depression from it, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  
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PMS depression? All you need is a bigger distraction

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “PMS depression? All you need is a bigger distraction” the main reason why I choose that topic because many women feel depression when they meet with PMS monthly, if we use different perception about it, the problem is not about PMS (Pre Menstruation Syndrome), but women’s mentality isn’t trained to do something attractive every time they meet with PMS, remember this; don't try to hate the natural system like PMS because human's capacity is not entitled to reject the process, all you can do is how to discipline your focus by doing something attractive till your focus can't be distracted by PMS, the best effort you can do when PMS comes is you consume a good nutrition food which can increase woman body’s metabolism, e.g. vegetables, honey, olive oil, chocolate, if you spend your time to focus on your pain memory in PMS, you waste your good moment in your life because the natural system only can be accepted, not being rejected, here is the key how to live harmony with PMS is don't reject what you aren't entitled to reject and don't complain what you aren't entitled to complain. 

 You main duty as woman is don’t put your focus on something which can’t be changed as naturally, you just need a bigger distraction to distract your focus to do something bigger than you fear, that’s point, your circumstance will not change until you increase your capacity of resourcefulness, maybe you need to kindle new hobby or you set a clear goal in order to magnify your power of focus, life is not changing for you if you don't change yourself, in my opinion; you must change your philosophy if you want to get new wisdom for your life, don’t ever try to change something which has been set by God as naturally, but change something you can by expanding what you experience with your resourcefulness, the late of Bruce lee said “you must apply what you know, there is meaningless resource if you don’t apply what you know, you know nothing until you apply what you know”, remember; every human is limited by what they know, what they believe is limited by what they learn, they will never know what happens within themselves until they do something they never try before, starting from now, don’t do something which can increase your bad mood, you must focus how to make your life is more valuable, the greatness comes from what you invest within something you are extremely curious, if your focus is bigger than the pain of PMS, you no longer feel bad mood, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  

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Depression screening? Check your social circle, philosophy and role model


  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Depression screening? Check your social circle, philosophy and role model”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people are able to screen where the source of depression is coming, the root of problem why so many people can't detect their source of depression because their philosophical guidance system can't direct what people want to the right resource, if people repeat this kind of ritual, as impact, people are trapped in the same reality over and over again, if people want to escape from reality where they have set by themselves, they must break the lifestyle's pattern which can connect between people's philosophical guidance system and people's purpose, here is my recommendation; don't believe with something which tells you about a secure zone because there is nothing secure in the life journey, everything in the life journey is dynamic, if this life offers a secure zone, it means, there is nothing progress at anything, if what you do now can't direct your soul to the peaceful solution, you must check your social circle, philosophy and role model because three of them have high potential to determine what is your future looks likeif you want to know whether your partners are good or not, you must do self-reflection by checking something you do for yourself, if you have been encircled by good partners, that means, you succeed to invest something good into yourself, such as good skill, good personality and profound impact, remember; what you invest to yourself will determine type of person who will stay in your future's life, if you get bad partners to your life, that means you don’t invest something good to yourself, if you want to screen deeply about your personality, habit and ritual, all you need to do is tracking the information you have selected to be learnt

  Don't be follower, but be a good student, that's strategy how to know whether your life journey is on the right track or not, don't just hang your future into other people's hope because your future is only shaped by your own decision, remember; the quality of your social circle will determine your personality, drive, purpose and intelligence, if you feel depressed without reason, maybe one of your social circle can’t offer you a peace, if you don’t have a good role model, pull your vision to stay together with you and be the best version of yourself, at this moment let me share to you how to avoid depression state of mind, hopefully these strategies can improve your mindset, here is the first strategy you need to prepare for avoiding depression state; be someone you will need in the future, it means, you need to strive what you deserve, other people will do something for your future if you provide something good for your future, here is the second strategy you need to prepare for avoiding depression state; don't tie your happiness into the stuff or people, the reason why you need to beware about it because your happiness is the biggest asset you should care of it, your happiness should stay in what you do in daily basis, if you put your happiness out of control, you will always get depression state of mind, remember this; you happiness lies in what you give of others and who you serve, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  

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Living with depression? Stop sticking your temporary want with your conscious mind

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Living with depression? Stop sticking your temporary want with your conscious mind”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people keep sticking their temporary want into their head until they don't know how to stop the process, most people consider pursuing a temporary want can lead them to go in long term happiness, it is not true, do you know why i say such thing? Because every temporary want can't survive more than 24 hours, you must beware when a temporary want comes into your mind because it will create a sense of anger or disappointment to your feeling when a temporary want is gone, here is the note; a long term happiness only happens when you prepare your skill, enthusiasm, focus for achieving something big in the future, if you concern about your temporary want, you should get rid of it soon because prioritizing a temporary want doesn't bring a long term benefit for your long term career, here is the bad news if you always prioritize your temporary want; you will get trapped in the same reality over and over again, eventually you just get something uninspiring and boring result, if your life keeps you to stay in the backtrack journey, you will be living with depression because you don't prepare a long term goal for 5 years later, here is my recommendation; please add something new to reality and don't just take a reality as your excuse for not doing more kindness. 

  If you always execute your temporary want in every situation, you will stay in the backtrack journey and you will not enlightenment from what you are doing because there is nothing more interesting than your temporary want, in order to create a new journey in your life, you have to know how to fail your temporary want and start doing your long term goal by doing something progressively in every day, remember; a temporary want is usually motivated by fixed mindset, whereas, long term goal is usually motivated by growth mindset and a tough experience in the past, here is my opinion; you will never know how you are capable of something until you will taste a failure, you have to taste more failure if you want to know more about your future, the reason why I say such thing because every success you get just offers you a comfort zone, here is special note; if you are not having a little bit of fearful in your career, you are not figuring out about who you are and what you are capable of, every failure will become your wonderful teacher if you are willing to learn about consequence and depression life is caused by self-ignorance towards the truth, remember; person who never fails at something he does, he actually does something uninspiring because he rejects any possibility which can bring him more prospering, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  

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Anger management therapy? Stop executing your unrealistic expectation in reality

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Anger management therapy? Stop executing your unrealistic expectation in reality”, the main reason why I choose that topic because there are many people can’t endure with the side effect of anger when they realize what they expect doesn't happen in reality, the root of problem why many people's hope doesn't happen in reality because human's habit doesn't meet with the capacity of hope, for example; people want to earn a millionaire dollars per year, but unfortunately people only possess a habit which can earn one thousand dollars per year, that's main reason why reading book is important because this kind of habit can increase the capacity of human's productivity, for this case, I don’t recommend people to create their high expectation into reality because reality is the result of what people have done in the past, if people push their high expectation into reality, as impact, people will always get angry, if you want to change reality, you must do something you have never did before and you increase your momentum by doing more than you get paid for what you work, if you complete a life challenge like I said before, you must do repetition in order to stabilize your productivity, remember this; anger’s enemy is not lies into your patience, anger’s enemy is lies into your rapid progress or the momentum you create in every single day, the main reason why a sense of anger can’t defeat person who increases his high performance skill because he creates new momentum every day which can destroy the anger’s power, that’s one of method how to create anger management therapy. 

  Remember; your anger is determined by ego, unrealistic expectation and a sense of self-righteousness, you will not get affected by your sense of anger if you don't tie your happiness state into something which doesn't exist in reality, people who are angry easily because they often to tie their unrealistic expectation into reality, here is the conclusion; the more often people pursue their unrealistic expectation, the more they aren't get happiness in the real life, as long as people reject reality, people's mentality can't survive with uncertainty, remember this; reality comes from the series of many experiences which have been done completed by human's activity in the past, if you want to be happy person, don't reject reality and do something new in reality, at this moment I would share some strategies how to create angry management therapy, here is the first thing you need to prepare for creating angry management therapy; train your mind to behave like a new student who loves to learn, the reason why you must train your mind like a new student because the progress of your learning will stop your sense of anger, here is the second thing you need to prepare for creating angry management therapy; you must learn how to appreciate the process, the reason why you must appreciate the process because only God can finish something you have started, this kind of ritual will help you to stabilize your good mood if you appreciate the process, here is the good news; if you can adapt with life's uncertainty, you will no longer get angry, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  

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Love depression? Don’t chase someone who doesn’t chase you


   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Love depression? Don’t chase someone who doesn’t chase you”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many couples are trapped in toxic relationship, besides that, they are unable to meet their respective partner's emotional needs even though they know they are not compatible as partners, if we observe deeply about this case, "incompatible love usually creates hurt feeling each other and incompatible love is usually created by lack of respect", so if you want to know why most couples are trapped in love depression because they just put their hope into their partners without preparing mindset to accept their respective partner's ego, every couple who feel depressed because they don't create a future hope within their relationship and they just spend their time to enjoy a sense of loving in short term period, remember this advice; the reason why many human relationship becomes boring and unattractive because many couples don't find a problem which can be converted into their future hope, that’s key how to avoid every couple from love depression, so before you want to prolong your relationship with your couple, you must know your couple's future hope, you have to ensure your couple finds something special within your uniqueness, from that simple explanation, we can conclude that not all problems become disaster if many people consider it as God's favor, here is clue how to make yourself is ready to be loved; don't chase someone who doesn't chase you, work hard and sell your personality to as many as people until you will be chased by someone who meets your partner's requirement.  

  Please don’t create hocus-pocus during making good relationship because you will be remembered as unimportant person, remember; your words is part of self-promotion to your partner, if your words can’t promote your future hope to your partner, you will be trapped in love depression, please don’t spend your major time to pursue someone who doesn’t chase you, if you want to pursue someone you love, you have to prepare yourself as a leading figure who can guide people to create a better life, at this moment I would share to you some strategies how to avoid a love depression, hopefully these strategies can improve your personality, here is the first strategy you need to prepare if you want to avoid a love depression in relationship; don’t compare what you have with something your couple’s doesn’t have and focus how to fulfill your couple’s emotional need, if you can fulfill your couple’s emotional needs, wherever you go, your existence can always create affection feeling to your couple, here is the second strategy you need to prepare if you want to avoid a love depression in relationship; don’t talk about topic which can lower your couple's confidence level until your couple feels incompatible with you, the reason why you must beware about it because your couple’s confidence will affect to yours, if your couple loses self-confidence because your topic of conversation, you will be trapped in love depression, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.          


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Feeling sad and lonely? Don’t surround yourself with unsupported environment

 
 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Feeling sad and lonely? Don’t surround yourself with unsupported environment”, the main reason why I choose that topic because some people don’t realize that their unsupported environment can evoke feeling sad and lonely to what they have done, if we observe deeply about sadness and lonely, this kind of feeling is caused by someone’s insincerity to accept new condition which insists someone to do something he never did before, in my opinion; don't just focus on your weaknesses, but you must find a good reference which can make you forget about your temporary sadness, sad person usually just spends his major time to think about what he can't do about his future and he recalls his bad memory without surrounding himself with supported environment, for example; someone plans to live in the next 5 years as a singer and he doesn't make some rehearsals for fulfilling the qualification he needs to become a singer, this kind of attitude will make someone gets feeling sad and lonely because he breaks his own commitment, in order to remove feeling sad and lonely, he needs to refrain his wrong commitment and he needs to find a good role model which can guide him to increase his productivity and creativity, here is the important note; don't break your commitment after you intend to pursue your goal because act of breaking commitment can evoke a bad mood to what you have done, don't stop until you get the result.

  

  Remember this note; lack of productivity can cause someone to feel sad and lonely, you can’t get a good feeling by doing something which can’t increase your confidence, please don't fight what intuition tells you, if you feel good at what you do, that's means, the universe sends you a good purpose to your career, if you just surround yourself with unsupported environment and uninspiring activity, you can’t focus on what you can do now, instead you will destroy the moment of your happiness, I don’t recommend you to do something which can decrease your esteem, you must avoid the activity which offers instant gratification to you because instant gratification can bring sadness when it is leaving you, at this moment, I would like to share what you need to do if you want to avoid sadness and lonely, here is the first thing you need to do if you want to get a carefree life; take a journal to monitor your activity and write down what you need to think or plan only, the reason why you need to do it because this strategy can help you to reform your thinking way, if you think what you aren’t entitled to think about your future, outer circumstance will always distract your focus and destroy your inner peace, here is the second thing you need to do if you want to get a carefree life; you must have strong reason before you will execute what you do, the reason why you need to have strong reason before you will execute what you do because a strong reason will help you to adapt with the consequence, here is good  news; if you can accept a consequence, there is nothing can make you worry or sad, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.     

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Anger in children? Because children’s fearfulness is greater than their curiosity

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Anger in children? Because children’s fearfulness is greater than their curiosity”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many children lose their potential when their parents can’t provide what children need, most parents just give their children what parents want without knowing what children need, for this case, children don’t really want to keep in touch with the toys which can offer satisfaction only, e.g. gadget, cellphone, what children need within their mind is asking attention from adult, playtime with someone whom children trust, the medium of instruction which can connect between children’s curiosity and children’s response, and the toys which offers educational, if you see children who get angry easily because their parents just offer them a self-indulgence lifestyle and offer what children don’t need, I don’t recommend every parent to buy the toys which can’t offer education to children, such as gadget or cellphone, if you want to buy a gadget or cellphone to your children, you have to ensure your children’s age is more than 13 years old, if your children’s age is below 13 years old, you just need to give them something which can offer knowledge to your children, such as Lego puzzle games, painting games, playing ball, a heroic story from historical book, those games are good for children’s mental development because they can increase the children's natural instinct to survive.

 The main reason why gadget or cellphone is very dangerous for children’s mental development because gadget or cellphone just offers instant gratification only and reduce children's natural instinct development, besides that, gadget or cellphone can decrease children’s curiosity level which can educate children to survive, remember; if children consume instant gratification more often than consume educational needs, as impact, children’s fearfulness will be greater than their curiosity, if children's fearfulness is greater than their curiosity, they don't have any willingness to pursue their potential, starting from now, don’t provide what children want before you fulfill what children need, if you just give what children want without fulfilling what children need, your children will lose their passion of learning, here is the first strategy you need to fulfill your children need; invest at least 6 hours to create the quality time with your children every day, the reason why you need to do this because the quality time will create a warm relationship between parent and children, here is the second strategy you need to fulfill your children need; provide a schedule how to discipline children’s habit and monitor what their good at and what not their good at, the reason why you need to monitor children’s habit development because every habit will determine what they will become in the future, here is the third strategy you need to fulfill your children need; don’t punish when children make new mistake, the reason why you aren't allowed to punish your children when they make a new mistake because every new mistake will unlock new potential and increase a sense of creativity to children, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.    

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Feeling lonely and depressed? Surround yourself with interesting work

  

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Feeling lonely and depressed? Surround yourself with interesting work”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people are feeling lonely and depressed when they can't achieve what they struggle, if observe deeply about this case, the problem comes from people’s potential which is not growing well, if people feel lonely and depressed now because they just spend their time to do something which can’t increase their potential, so I recommend people to stop their attention from social media because not all information from social media can increase people’s potential, instead, most information from social media has been provided by small minded person, that’s reasonable way how to protect ourselves from depression, in order to increase potential for longer time, you must surround yourself with interesting work because it can offer what your potential needs, if you aren't happy because you surround yourself with uninteresting work, so your potential isn't matched with the job you have picked, remember; happy people are surrounded by high performance skill and they stay working on the problem they love, no wonder they work very hard without any bad feeling because they surround themselves with interesting work, the key how to increase your good feeling about your potential; you must fuel your purpose with drive, energy and focus, if you don’t obey that strategy, you will always get a bad feeling although you overwork from a good company which pays you with high payment.

 Don’t just think money and success can make you a happy, it is not true, money and success are just amplifier, it will not change your habit and personality permanently, if you want to change your habit and personality permanently, you must work with the law of universe, e.g. you work on your potential, you give more stuff to others than you receive it, you help other people to solve their problem, you invest your money to the foundationif you feel lonely and depressed with your job, that means you put your small potential to the job which doesn’t need your existence, attention and love, here is my recommendation; you have to surround yourself with job which can put your big potential into higher purposeif there is job which can't bring your existence, attention and love to the better place, you would better to quit because that uninteresting job will not give you a potential you need, please don’t just work for money, I understand that money is important because it can help you to maintain your daily needs and your family, but if you work on your bad feeling, money will not heal your feeling, instead, money will increase your painful experience, if I were in your position, I will tell myself “if my existence, my attention, my energy and my skill are not needed by job, I am not suitable with that job”, remember this advice; God will not give you a job when you just need the money, but God will give you an suitable job when your potential is ready to be used for other people's issue, here is the conclusion; big money is part of feedback from what you struggle for your potential, whereas, small money is part of feedback from what you struggle for your own desire only, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.    

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Drinking and depression? You just need to learn how to accept reality


   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Drinking and depression? You just need to learn how to accept reality”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people are willing to give up their desire which can attract depression, e.g. drinking, gambling at casino, sometimes people need to taste a bad consequence because they don’t believe that every new hope can bring new ritual which can influence people to stop doing their bad ritual, the main reason why people treat drinking as daily ritual because people believe drinking can decrease a life pressure where people receive it from their daily activity, if we use different perception about this case, “life pressure comes from wrong ritual, mediocre mindset and poor habit, in addition, life pressure will occur when people break the balance system in nature which can connect between people’s perception and what people receive from reality”, the root of problem why people have drinking habit and get depression because what they pursue can’t offer energy, positive impact and higher purpose, here is the accurate answer why people get a life pressure because what they demand to the universe is bigger than what they can endure from the consequence, in order to create a happy life, people are ready to endure the consequence and they just do something which can attract energy, positive impact and higher purpose.

  Basically people who can’t stop drinking because they keep a great depression within their mind and they think being realistic is the best answer to understand about their feeling, it is not true because "being realistic is the most commonly traveled road to mediocrity"in order to stop people who have drinking habit, we can offer new information which can change their perception first, if people reject our good information, we can show the evidence which can educate people to know more about the bad effect of drinking, at this moment let me share some strategies to change your habit, here is the first strategy how to stop drinking and how to avoid depression; don’t reject reality, the reason why you shouldn’t reject reality because reality is part of feedback from what you do in daily activity, if you reject reality, you automatically break the law of universe, if you break the law of universe, you will get a painful experience more than you think, if you accept reality, you don’t need a drinking as your daily ritual because the acceptance of reality will create a positive energy and this kind of energy will influence your mind to increase your capacity by achieving more goals than you’re taking benefit, here is the second strategy how to stop drinking and how to avoid depression; don’t look your past with anger and accept your capacity as the sign of God’s mercy, the reason why you aren’t allowed to look your past with anger because it will blind your vision and it can destroy your peace, your capacity can be widen when you increase your giving rate and increase your curiosity to solve problem you love, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.    

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Life after antidepressants? You must do something you never did before

  


   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Life after antidepressants? You must do something you never did before” the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people want to take lesson from a bad effect from antidepressant usage, some people think that antidepressant is the end solution how to heal the illness of mental condition, but in the fact, antidepressant will bring the worse condition to human’s mental health if antidepressant will be consumed in long term period, if we use different perception about this case, there is nothing benefit we can get from antidepressant because emotional disease / mental disease only can be healed when the human spiritual's experience has been upgraded with spiritual enlightenment and knowledge about God's law, people who lack of spiritual values, they tend to avoid what their religion suggests them to do, if you see people who have a strong belief with what they dream, they tend to create self-demanding in order to be matched with the qualifications of dream, if people want to know how to improve life's journey, they must end their habit and ritual which can make themselves staying away from the truth, remember; truth always hurts your feeling, but it will turn into peace when you invest something good for your soulyour past is different with your future, but if you keep doing your ritual without having new clear goal in long term period, your future will be the same as your past, so for this case, having new clear goal in the long term period has the biggest impact to direct human’s attention, habit and ritual to the better direction in the future. 

                                     

  Here is my suggestion; if you want to know whether your life is still progressing in the higher standard or not, you can check what other people offer something to you, if other people give what you need, that means you do something good in your life, but if other people don't offer something good for you, that means, you don't promote your personality to future hope, please beware about your personality, if your personality doesn't promote your qualification to the future, that means, you have personal problem with your own personalityif you want to get second chance to improve your life, you must do something you never did before, that’s key how to create a new life, people who have the same ritual as they did it yesterday, that means their future is going to be likely as yesterday, if people want to avoid depression, they must break the chain of poor habit even though it takes several years to take, now my question to you, do you keep the same ritual as you did it yesterday? If you just keep doing the same ritual as you did yesterday, your future will be the same as what you did in your previous ritual, so what you need to do now is not giving your ritual with the same decision, but how you increase your giving rate to other people who await your skillif you can’t decide what you will become in the next 5 years, you will be staying in the same journey as you made in the previous of your ritual in the last 5 years, please remember what you give to others because one day you will be pursued by what you give, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.    

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Best antidepressant for women is using the forgiveness therapy

  

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Best antidepressant for women is using the forgiveness therapy”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many women think consuming antidepressant is the end solution how to deal with problem in the past, but if we use different perception about antidepressant usage, this kind of drug is not good to be consumed by women for long term period because antidepressant will disrupt feminine hormone circulation, heart rhythm disturbances, diabetes, etc. basically the illness of mental condition can’t be healed by antidepressant because the illness of mental condition is unrelated with physical disease, instead the illness of mental condition is related with emotional disease, depression or sadness only can be healed when someone has applied the method of hypnotherapy, meditation, do charity or consulting with psychiatrist or psychologist, that's it, remember this note; people who don't apply the law of universe, they will get agitation from the complexity of mind, in addition, people who violate the law of universe, they will get emotional disease, e.g. depression, regret, angry, anxiety, disappointment, if you ask me how to reduce with emotional disease, you just need to increase a deep sense of gratitude, stay harmony with the law of universe by doing what makes your beloved people happy, if you isolated yourself from beloved people, you will not get positive energy from them.

 At this moment let me share some strategies to you how to apply the forgiveness therapy, hopefully these strategies can help you to improve your daily problem which disrupts your inner peace, here is the first strategy you must do how to apply the forgiveness therapy as substituting of the antidepressant usage; don’t ever possess the past oriented mindedness, the reason why you must stay away from past oriented mindedness because there is no way how to avoid from the past and there is nothing you can do for your past because your past is a permanent condition, in order to break the chain of depression, do something for tomorrow and keep improving your mind health by doing something which can offer you a peace, kindness and higher purpose, you only have two options to heal your mind condition from your past is staying grateful for whatever you receive in reality or do self-introspection for what you have done in the past, if you don’t challenge your conscious mind by choosing one out of two options above, your conscious mind will absorb a worse experience in the next life journey, here is the second strategy you must do how to apply the forgiveness therapy as substituting of the antidepressant usage; accept reality as the result of progress to improve your self-image and forgive other people's mistake in the past in order to increase your positive vibes, the reason why you must accept reality because life has already shown the past moment through reality, if you reject reality, you indirectly violate the law of universe, as impact, you deserve to get emotional disease for longer time period, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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Feeling depressed for no reason? You must stop what you pursue till you are ready to accept the consequence

  

  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Feeling depressed for no reason? You must stop what you pursue till you are ready to accept the consequence”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people are not ready to face the consequence after they have done something in the past, many people consider life is going to reward what they have done immediately, but in fact they don't receive any benefit after they have done something in the past, if we use different perception about this case; people who feel depressed for no reason because they have spent their major time to pursue something which can’t offer peace, good purpose and kindness, in order to fix the misunderstanding point from the statement above, you have to know that reality will not manifest what you expect before your mental age is ready to deal with the consequence, "accept the consequence can offer you peace", remember; in order to know more about peace, you have to know what your soul needs, don't let what you pursue is going to destroy peace, you can't get something bigger than what you expect if you stay doing in small purpose, feeling peace is beyond than what your logical mind does to youin order to reduce depression, people must raise their standard of thinking by leaving their ego, only our ego can hurt our good feeling, here is advice; if you don’t have any good reason to start something good today, that signs you are doing something wrong because you behave like profit-oriented person, peace is not trying to get as much pleasure as you can get, peace is trying to heal your mind and heart from the pursuit of outcome, life is very simple; you must know the consequence before you start earning, that's law, if you just focus how to earn money, you will receive the unknown consequence which makes you feel bad. 

 Every consequence doesn't have any purpose to harm you, but it is designed to teach you how to create wise decision once you meet with new problem, If there is someone who feel depressed for no reason, it is caused by his profit oriented mindset, as I told you before "before you pursue how to take profit, you must learn about the consequence", if you can't see any consequence from the subject you want to do, you must buckle down about the consequence until you know how to deal with consequence, if you are ready to face the consequence, you will get more profit rather than pursue the profit only, life only rewards you when you are ready to endure the consequence, please don’t pursue the outcome till you are ready to find problem which can destroy a mental block, "mind over matters is standard how to deal with consequence",  here is the key how to love with consequence; "play your own life game with wholeheartedly and don't hate what you aren't entitled to hate, stay grateful with God's plan", there is no good life if you don't find any deep meaning from what you pursue, remember; we are living to this life to play the game, e.g. suffering, wealth, health, relationshipif you don’t accept the consequence, you have no clue how to deal with your next life journey, what I believe is "only self-ignorance will lead our good feeling to depression", I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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Relationship depression? Stop pretending to be someone you aren't and be the best version of yourself

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Relationship depression? Stop pretending to be someone you aren't and be the best version of yourself”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people get peaceful relationship because they pretend to be kinder person than they become themselves, so some couples are tied themselves in fake personality, the root of problem why many young couples are tied in fake personality because they are trying so hard to be someone whom gets praise from their couples, basically they can’t sell good personality to their couples, what many couples do is they demand each other to do something what they shouldn't be and they leave their original personality, that's sign many couple are tied in relationship depression, for this case, I can conclude the problem comes from the fake personality, do you know why I say such thing because happy couples are creating bond relationship like brother and sister who accept their original personality each other, in addition; happy couple don't sell their fake personality in order to please their couples, remember this advice; person who is not ready to accept the consequence from different personality in relationship, he is unable to survive in good relationship, the reason why I say such thing because person who is not ready to accept different personality in his couple, he tends to blame his couple when he can't see any worthy from his couple's imperfect personality, this is important note, person who is not ready to improve his own personality, he doesn't merit to receive any kindness from his couple.

   Remember; toxic relationship can't be healed until every couple are willing to improve their own personality, If person wants to be happy in relationship, he must know how to sell his personality to his couple and he knows how to adapt with different personality, the famous philosopher ever said “people who are happy in relationship, they don't receive more benefits from their couple, but they invest their own personality to their couple's imperfect personality”, from quotation marks in that statement, we can conclude that selling good personality to couple is a must, before you want to receive more benefits from your couple, you must sell good personality to your couple until your couple sees you as good investor, starting from now, please prioritize self-love rather than self-satisfaction, if you can create this habit as your ritual, you can always create peace in your relationship, remember; person who feels depressed in his relationship because he behaves like self-righteous person and being egoistic person, here is the last note; don't let your relationship can destroy your original personality, if your couple can improve your capacity and make your original personality to be better person in every single day, so you must hold that relationship for everlasting, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   
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Deep wound healing? Stop pursuing something which doesn't want to chase you

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic "Deep wound healing? Stop pursuing something which doesn't want to chase you” the main reason why I choose that topic because many people let their good feeling being hurt by the pursuit of outcome, if we use different perception about this case; having poor potential and poor self-image can influence people's mind to chase something which doesn't want to chase them, the root of problem why deep wound is still coming to people’s life even though they can earn money because people have spent their major time to pursue outcome only, in my opinion; lacking of self-actualization can invite a huge mistake and regret, do you know why I say such thing because lacking of self-actualization indicates people lose their potential, remember this note; people who never pursue their potential, they will not get enlightenment from what they pursue, lack of potential will create deep wound, it is just like faith, when faith unused can create the chaotic mind, in order to heal deep wound, people must stop pursuing something which can't offer energy, higher purpose or positive impact.


  In order to shut deep wound within our peace of mind, we must shut our greatest expectation to something uninspired, the more we pursue something which can’t empower us, the more we get uninspired life journey, please beware about what we pursue, we only have one ride through life, so we must give our best skill and ability to offer something to people who can appreciate our effort, before we want to pursue something big, we must know which destination we shall go with our skill, remember this; what we left something today, it will become tomorrow’s legacy, if we left ungrateful feeling today, it will become our deep wound in tomorrow’s legacy, we have to ensure whatever we do something today, it must become our salvation in tomorrow’s legacy, our action will be meaningless if we just do something for getting pleasure because every instant pleasure can’t stand to face a life pressure in tomorrow, but if we spend our time to do something today for kindness and build a reputation, it will stand forever in our life legacy, starting from now, please look around your social circle or your environment because it will affect your mental age, please don’t pursue something which can’t offer you a energy, good purpose or kindness, if you break this rule, your state of mind always get pursued by deep wound and you will become unhappy person, if you want being pursued by positive energy, you have to give something where you never give before to other people around you, the right people will stay with you when you do something big to your potential, it is law, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.    


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Depression and isolation? Don’t let the outcome can destroy your potential

  

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Depression and isolation? Don’t let the outcome can destroy your potential” the main reason why I choose that topic because many people focus to pursue the outcome until they don't realize how to optimize their potential, I understand there is no reward is coming when there is no pursuit of potential, but when we just focus how to get reward only, our potential will decrease its strength because we lack optimizing itremember; potential is like a seed, it needs to be taken care regularly, for this case, the pursuit of potential is more significant than outcome because outcome can create high resistance to our potential's growth, remember; great potential can’t be produced when there is no harmony between vivid imagination, dedication and great enthusiasm, in my opinion; people must protect their potential first before they want to pursue the outcome if they want to get extraordinary result, if potential's growth is greater than outcome, potential can buy us something greater than outcome, if people only pursue the outcome, then it will limit people's potential growth and eventually outcome will create the atmosphere of feeling depressed and isolated, now let me give you an example to comprehend you for this case, imagine that you are going to go on the fish pond in the weekend by renting a boat alone, if you just focus how to get a fish without preparing your strategy, potential and rehearsal, you will feel depressed and feel isolated because you don’t know how to attract a fish with your fishing rod, starting from now, please treat your potential as your best friend because one day you will thank to your potential. 

  In order to grow your potential, you need to do some rehearsal in the past because every rehearsal will make your mental age is ready to face many life pressure in the future, do you know why people get depression and isolation even though they can earn money because their goal can't inspire people to collect a positive energy, remember; money is having a negative side if you can't manage its characteristic, money can buy a happiness when you use money to pay your potential and money can make you poor when you use money to fulfill your desire only, at this moment let me give you some strategies how to protect yourself from depression and isolation, hopefully these strategies can improve your lifestyle, here is the first strategy you must do if you want to stay harmony and stay away from feeling depressed and isolated; don’t limit yourself to know more about your potential and don’t let the unknown distraction can distract your focus, the reason why you must know more about your potential because it can free you from poor mindset and negativity, the more you grow your potential, the less you fear to take higher level of risk, "every risk is the down payment to succeed", here is the second strategy you must do if you want to stay harmony and stay away from feeling depressed and isolated; find someone who can detect your blind spot and be resourceful for anybody, the reason why you must find someone who can detect your blind spot because every blind spot can create a mental block, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck. 

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