• Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

  • Psychology

    Welcome to Alfiandi's Website, in these articles you will learn about what is the purpose of life, you will learn more about yourself, besides that, you will learn how to maintain a mental health, pain tolerance, willpower, subconscious mind, self-esteem, etc.

All about depression? You need to widen your perception

 

  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “All about depression? You need to widen your perception”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many people can feel about their own value, some people consider what they receive from life is unfair, some people consider life is full of pain and suffering, some people consider life is like living in the hell, from those cases, I would say the problem is not lies into what was in reality, but it lies into self-delusion, if you think your happiness can be determined by your current position now, you have to ensure your happiness is in line with what you do, not what you have, I don’t recommend you to avoid what you can’t reject, e.g. uncertainty, catastrophe, crisis, consequence, reality, unexpected circumstance, etc. the first duty you need to do if you don't want to get depression is acceptance and the second duty is self-reflection, the reason why many of us get depressed easily because we try to control what we can't and we don't obey with the law of cause and effect, remember this philosophy "if we don't widen our perception when it's time we need to do it, we will be forced to taste the pain of stupidity when there's no time to reject what we can't reject", remember; you and I aren't destined to change reality, what we can do is renew our perception of reality and find another insight from other people even though we don't understand the meaning of it at this time, if we really care about our future, we must protect our future from self-delusion and fake expectation, life will give something meaningful when we get rid of our desire and we put our energy, focus, attention, time, health into something we don't really like to do logically for others.  

        

 The reason why many people are suffering in this life because they can't control the power of desire and they are unwilling to adapt with new reality which has been set by God, as we know life system is dynamic, not static, as long as we set a static pressure into our habit, our habit will live like a weed in the empty land, life is full of option, "if we don't want to live with inspiration, we will live with desperation", basically we aren't entitled to reject the life system, we must be staying harmony with the life system if we don't want to destroy what's unimportant thing in our life, if we see reality now, many people don't want to destroy their illusion because their illusion can give them a sense of great pleasure, remember this advice; illusion makes us weaker than what we get from its benefit, "comfort zone = illusion = pleasure", our bright future is waged in our commitment, good habit, good attitude, knowledge, perception, good purpose, endurance and good philosophy, if we can’t bear enough to endure bad consequence in this life, we must stop what can make us an extreme pleasurethe reason why we need to control a sense of pleasure because it can't help us when it's time we face a crisis, the real power of human's strength comes from the experience of a high pain tolerance, it's better suffering in any discipline rather than suffering in regret, so if you ask me "why a lot of people get depressed easily even though they can earn money because they lack of endurance skill", here is the important note; people who lack of endurance skill indicates that people lack of ability to solve a long term problem and they can't survive with life's dynamic pressure, here is the last note; "don't follow money's habit because money doesn't change people's habit, only endurance can change people's habit, if people can change their habit, their future will change as well"as long as people gain too much an extreme pleasure and also love the instant process, as impact, they are forced to suffer the pain of depression in long period of time because they lack of endurance", I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.    

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Depressed spouse is caused by lack of self-acceptance, not their partner

 

   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Depressed spouse is caused by lack of self-acceptance, not their partner”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many spouses are not ready to adapt with their partner's weaknesses, many spouses feel depressed and start to blame a mistake to their partner when their partner can’t create something better for future life, from this case, I don’t recommend you to blame or complain something out of your control, remember; your life partner is reflected to what you attempt towards your capacity, it is mentioned clearly in Holy Qur’an Surah An Nur chapter 24 verse 26 “vile woman is destined for vile man and vile man is destined for vile woman, whereas, kind woman is destined for kind man and kind man is destined for kind woman”, from that verse, we can conclude there is nobody in the world can treat us good or bad, all depends how we ourselves treat our own lives, as long as we invest something good to our lives, our gift to others will determine something we deserve, if we learn from this case, depressed spouse is not caused by what his/her partner does, depressed spouse is caused by lack of self-acceptance, so the basic problem comes from lack of self-acceptance, we will never be happy person if we rely too much our lives into our partner's life, remember this philosophy "everything outside of your control is the part of label and label can not determine how happy you are until you give something meaningful to yourself".

          

 Here is my recommendation; before you will be marrying with someone you love, please ask yourself with this question “am I ready to accept all consequences from my personal character before my upcoming spouse will add something unexpected into my personal life?”, if you can answer it, you will not worry to accept your spouse's weaknesses, remember this; everyone has limitation and we are not destined by God to fix other people’s capacity even though we insist to do it, our job as spouse is we fix our inner capacity and we treat our partner like what we treat to ourselves, if we can’t fix ourselves, our partner will always disappoint us whether we are ready or not to accept it, starting from now, we must learn how to accept all consequences from our strength and weaknesses because it will determine our future's life partner, if we deny whatever comes from our capacity, everything outside will betray us, if we think our capacity is very important rather than the material world we pursue, we should invest something good in our capacity first, e.g. knowledge, wisdom, experience, good purpose, peace, if there is something outside can’t offer a good purpose, benefit or peace, we mustn't sell our attention, time, money and energy into it, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.    

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Signs your depressed will be coming up when you label something you hate

 

  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Signs your depressed will be coming up when you label something you hate”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people are waiting to be ready when they meet with problem, in fact, there is nobody in the world ready when problem comes to them, if we always wait to be readiness state, our mental age will never grow and adapt with something bigger, as we know there is a brain plasticity where it can adapt with our habit every time we want to practice something we are passionate with, our brain cell will make a new connection with other cells when we want to adapt with new issue or problem, if we show our hatred to something we face, it indicates that our mental age doesn't grow well, if we are making habit of it, we will always reject reality no matter what the result says, it's bad idea, I don’t recommend to everyone to express the feeling of hatred when there is problem because it will build a sense of depression to our brain memory, if we want to free ourselves from the sign of depression, we mustn't label something with hatred and we must change our state with positive self-image, that's the only way how to create self-healing, remember this; reality is the part of  self-image we visualize most, if we show our sense of deepest gratitude to problem, every problem will turn into God's blessingif we think reality doesn’t show the result as what we target, it doesn’t mean there is nothing works in the spiritual realm, sometimes what we can’t see is part of God’s plan to protect us from the dangerous things

          

 We must beware when we make a repetitive pattern of action because it will create habit for us, once we shape a new circle of habit, it will prevent putting our thinking cap on solution, "every habit will shape our destiny, we must accept consequence no matter what it takes", we must believe with our own worth if we want to change our future, self-worth will determine our emotional level state, the higher our emotional state in peace, the more we receive something big from God's graceif we stay into depression state, it indicates that we don't have any special offering to the future, our qualified faith equals with self-worth, the more often we practice our skill, the more we create self-worth, the reason why people feel depressed easily because they only focus on what’s lacking in their life and they can't differentiate between reality and God's plan, life is full of mysterious, not all things in the world we need to see, sometimes God prevents us to see something we can't see in order to let us focusing what we can and not to let outer circumstance destroying our peace, basically Almighty God doesn’t want our peace can be destroyed by outer circumstance, if God really loves us, He prevents us to see something we want in order to keep us away from the unimportant things in the world, remember this advice; if we focus on our self-worth, we will be used by God to serve the incredible power within us, if we lose self-worth, we will get depressed easily with unknown reasonwe must become a selective observer if we want to salvage our future because not all we see can free us from negativity, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  

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Postpartum depression after miscarriage

  

 Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Postpartum depression after miscarriage”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many women aren’t ready to endure the pain of postpartum depression after miscarriage, some women consider postpartum depression after miscarriage is the part of end hope, it is not true, reality is not shown to punish what we suffer, reality is just reflection to express what we progress, if we think reality is giving us the conjunction between the future and the past, so we mustn't stop making new hope because we still have the next journey to go, as long as we are still alive, there is no failure for us, here is the most important note we need to remember although we get unpleasant experience; we must renew our belief with a sense of gratitude and not to let our faith is going to die, that's important, if we let outer circumstance controls our major hope, we automatically kill our faith, eventually we will feel frustrated, from this case, women shouldn't show postpartum depression because it is not end of hope, remember; not all bad things are very bad for us, good or bad is part of perception, if we misjudge something we don't understand, as impact, we will always consider everything which is not line with our desire is bad, please explore what you see from your heart before you see something physically, if you want the postpartum depression is leaving you, don’t ever think “why miscarriage must happen to me?”, you should ask “what is the benefit after miscarriage ended?”, that's the game changer.

          

 Life is not so bad as long as we can interpret what life wants, our job as human is not enjoying reality, but taking every life event as the lesson to upgrade the faithif our faith is upgraded, our habit can increase awareness, unlock creativity, enrich knowledge and prolong patiencewe will never understand about God's plan until time will broaden our horizon and we aren't authorized to judge reality with a sense of complaining, remember; don't let what you can't will stop you from expressing a sense of gratitude, if we always label something with intense hatred, we will never get God's plan, starting from now; we mustn't hate something which it doesn’t hate us, as long as we are willing to accept what’s destined for us, we will never get mental illness such postpartum depression, that’s self-healing method, remember this advice; our habit will not make us suffering as long as we focus on what can give us peace, self-acceptance is the best self-healing method how to deal with unpleasant thing in this life, if we always reject what's coming to us, we will never get the message from our natural instinct, every problem we are facing in life is designed to direct us to God's plan, if we consider miscarriage is good for women's healthy, as impact, women will never get postpartum depression because women accept that condition as God's blessing, here is the good news; postpartum depression will turn into illusion if women don't take serious about it,  I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.     

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Control your temper like you prevent yourself to do something dangerous

 

 Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Control your temper like you prevent yourself to do something dangerous”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone can control their anger, some people think revealing their anger into reality can relieve the pain of disappointment, it is not true, do you know why I say such thing because revealing anger into reality is dangerous because it can disperse a stress hormone (cortisol) and can make human's logic stopped working from its normally function, once it has become a habit, people will find difficulty how to differentiate between realities and illusions in their life, finally people are unable to build self-esteem, I don’t recommend you to show your temper even though you feel unpleasant because it will kill your dopamine (creativity hormone), here is the best strategy if you want to heal yourself from the pain of temper is you break the anger's pattern by saying to yourself "stop, it is dangerous thinking, it is not part of me", if you express the incantation like that, your conscious mind will move to another direction and it will find alternative choice for you, remember this; if you can create something constructive for your habit, your conscious mind will help you to find the freedom to create something bigger than yourself because your creativity and idea are being needed by God's plan.

          

 If you can control your focus, then you can control where your peace is going, if you can control your peace, then you can find the greatest power within yourself, the reason why we need to control our temper because it can inhibit our logic and our creativity from its growth, remember this; a sense of anger often immobilize human's consciousness state, we mustn't let our temper growing by itself because it will create destruction to inner peace and anger also can create the pain of regret once it can succeed to lock our consciousness state, if we want to heal ourselves from the pain of regret, we must lock our anger by doing something constructive for our habit, e.g. discipline, setting new target, study a new skill, "life doesn’t give what we want, but life only provides what we need to work", it means, if we want to control our sense of temper, we must learn how to combine between a sense of displeasure and a sense of peace within our work, here is the good news; if you succeed to combine between a sense of displeasure and a sense of peace within your work, you can turn any problem into wisdom or solution, if you see there is something trying to make you angry, please explore what you see from different views, not judge what you see from physicality, if you misjudge something you don’t understand, your logic will stop working from its normally function and your conscious mind will get trapped into the illusion, finally you will not get something important from what you experience, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.     

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Symptoms of being depressed is too concern with what was and what will be


   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Symptoms of being depressed is too concern with what was and what will be”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many of us stop believing about what we pray when the situation gets worse, some people think the worse situation can’t be turned into what they hope when they don't see drastically change into reality, this statement is not true, the worse situation has nothing to do with what we hope, even though reality doesn’t support what we hope, it doesn’t mean everything is useless, the power of faith which lies in ourselves needs to be tested with reality first before the power of faith will manifest something great into reality, if we consider what we attempt is still connecting with the power of peace, it indicates that our struggle lies in the right track, so we need to continue the process by doing what we can, we don't need to argue our faith even though it contradicts with reality, remember this; the game of suffering will end when we don't force our limitation to work with the uncertainty process, what matters most is we don't concern with what was and what will be, focus in the game of productivity is better than focus in the game of uncertainty, starting from now; we must focus to work on the project which can give us access to know more about our limitation, so we can serve other people with our uniqueness, the more we work on our uniqueness, the more we can dig our faith, limitation and intelligence.

          

 If our project we have done can’t increase a sense of gratitude, can't unlock new skill and can’t increase our awareness every day, we need to stop that activity because it has possibility to attract negativity bias, if we execute the activity which can paralyze our passion of learning, our habit will attract unrelenting temptation from the unknown circumstance, remember this; if our habit prevents our passion of learning to grow, it means, we invest something bad into our habitonly self-righteousness, self-satisfaction and self-opinionated character can grow a sense of depression, at this moment I would share about several symptoms of being depressed, here is the first symptoms of being depressed; someone reacts to something which doesn't need his reaction, e.g. rumor, history, fact, future, past, the sensational news, here is my recommendation; please give your reaction when there is something needs your reaction, e.g. you focus how to turn your dream into reality, you serve other people with your skill, remember this philosophy; “what’s destined for you is always better than what you plan”, if you can do something for yourself even though there is nobody can do for you, it means, you are in the God's plan, don't escape from what has been destined for you, if you escape from it, you will endure the pain of depression, here is the second symptoms of being depressed; someone gives up easily when what he has done can't satisfy him, it's classic problem, remember; when someone is used to behave giving up easily, his habit will not do something good for him, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  

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Common symptoms of depression

  

  Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Common symptoms of depression”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many people still can’t recognize what makes them depressed, "many people think what they buy with their money can be the remedy for their soul and also can prevent them from getting depression", it is the incorrect statement, if people think money can be the remedy for their soul, why there are still a lot of people are unhappy and some people do the suicidal attempt when they meet with critical problem, from this particular situation, we can conclude the major cause of depression is not coming from the lack of satisfaction or the lack of money, but the major cause of depression is coming from the degree of expectation, the more often people expect something bigger than what they can do for their capacity, the more impact people get suffering from what they expect, as long as people don't make any progress, a sense of depression will always appear into reality, the key how to heal ourselves from common symptoms of depression is we don't increase the negative bias from our imagination, if we meet with the negative bias, it indicates that our capacity is not ready to endure more challenge from life's uncertaintyif we think what we target is too big to achieve, we can make it lower a bit and we can make daily target to make us easier to execute the target, from my own experience, symptoms of depression often comes from a repetitive misleading tradition, if you ask me where misleading tradition comes, it comes from ego and self-righteousness, remember this; tradition will never change people's life as long as people consider their tradition only can fulfill their biggest satisfaction, when the old tradition can't productive positive energy in every single day, it will become a repetitive misleading tradition”, if you feel your life doesn't change drastically as you hope, it indicates that your tradition can’t survive at the time you are growing in the future, so you must leave your old tradition by accepting new perception or idea from the successful people or people who have passed a difficult situation, as long as your activity stops your passion of learning and can't renew your tradition, as impact, the symptoms of depression is always waiting you

          

 Do you know why we need to renew our tradition and limitation by learning every day? Because life will plan to shut our vision once we stop learning, once we stop learning, we start to kill our chance for building a better life, here are the powers we need to possess if we want to renew our tradition; progress, equanimity, willingness to endure pain, extreme curiosity, passion of learning, enthusiasm and knowledgeif what we do now can’t offer something new to us, as impact, tomorrow will not manifest the result like we hope, here is the bad news; if our activity can't offer big impact in the long term journey, our habit will create a retrograde step and our life will get symptoms of depression from the unknown circumstance, our main job as human is not changing reality, but our main job is how to make reality follows our visionary, now my question “why common symptoms of depression can exist into reality? Because many of us are not willing to fulfill the future's demand, if our habit and tradition can attract negativity bias easily, it indicates our mindset isn't qualified to fulfill life's demand, remember this advice; don't let our fear of failure is greater than our enthusiasm of evolving, the reason why we must practice our body, mind and heart not to fear of failure because it really matters to change situation, mindset, and habit, here is philosophy you need to ponder; "if there is no failure, there is no progress, if there is no progress, there is no learning process, if there is no learning process, our future is going to backtrack, if our future backtracks, our daily activity makes us depression"there is no such failure in this life as long as we don't stop trying, failure is just trying to reroute to better direction, in order to get peace, we need to let our preparation fails in order to welcome God's grace, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

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