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Depressed spouse


   Hi, good readers, howdy? welcome back with me, Fian, hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about the topic “Depressed spouse”, the main reason why I choose that topic because many spouses are not ready to adapt with their partner's weaknesses, many spouses feel depressed and start to blame a mistake to their partner when their partner can’t create something better for future life, from this case, I don’t recommend you to blame or complain something out of your control, remember; your life partner is reflected to what you attempt towards your capacity, it is mentioned clearly in Holy Qur’an Surah An Nur chapter 24 verse 26 “vile woman is destined for vile man and vile man is destined for vile woman, whereas, kind woman is destined for kind man and kind man is destined for kind woman”, from that verse, we can conclude there is nobody in the world can treat us good or bad, all depends how we ourselves treat our own lives, as long as we invest something good to our lives, our gift to others will determine something we deserve, if we learn from this case, depressed spouse is not caused by what his/her partner does, depressed spouse is caused by lack of self-acceptance, so the basic problem comes from lack of self-acceptance, we will never be happy person if we rely too much our lives into our partner's life, remember this philosophy "everything outside of your control is the part of label and label can not determine how happy you are until you give something meaningful to yourself".


 Here is my recommendation; before you will be marrying with someone you love, please ask yourself with this question “am I ready to accept all consequences from my personal character before my upcoming spouse will add something unexpected into my personal life?”, if you can answer it, you will not worry to accept your spouse's weaknesses, remember this; everyone has limitation and we are not destined by God to fix other people’s capacity even though we insist to do it, our job as spouse is we fix our inner capacity and we treat our partner like what we treat to ourselves, if we can’t fix ourselves, our partner will always disappoint us whether we are ready or not to accept it, starting from now, we must learn how to accept all consequences from our strength and weaknesses because it will determine our future's life partner, if we deny whatever comes from our capacity, everything outside will betray us, if we think our capacity is very important rather than the material world we pursue, we should invest something good in our capacity first, e.g. knowledge, wisdom, experience, good purpose, peace, if there is something outside can’t offer a good purpose, benefit or peace, we mustn't sell our attention, time, money and energy into it, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.